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08/01/2006 09:35:31 PM · #1

I belong to an online community of mothers from all over the world. One of the members is a stay at home mother of five beautiful children. She woke up this morning to find that all of her husband's clothes were gone. Later, he sent her an email stating that he quit his job, he was leaving her for a woman he met on the internet, and that she could have full custody of the children. She is in complete shock as she has known this man since she was 15 years old. THere was no rift between them, and they were even trying to conceive another baby.

Several of us other mothers on the board want to try to help her out. School is around the corner, and the kids need school supplies. I can't imagine how she must feel. She hasn't been in the workforce for years, now she has the bills, mortgage, and the needs of five children to worry about (not to mention the cost of legal representation). She doesn't have a lot of immediate family nearby to help out either. To top it all off, he took most of their savings and ran!

In order to pool some funds together, I have dropped the prices on my prints drastically. From now until August 7th, all my profits from my print sales will go to a fund to help out this family. I am not the best photographer, but I am hoping there is something you all might find worth while to buy, especially for this cause. Any little bit helps. I appreciate you all taking the time to read.

08/01/2006 09:47:47 PM · #2

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pidge

Canon EOS-7D Mark II

08/01/2006 10:04:39 PM · #3

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Sony 16-50mm f/3.5-5.6 E-mount

08/01/2006 10:22:12 PM · #4

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klstover

Panasonic DMC-FZ8

08/01/2006 11:45:19 PM · #5

Bravo for what you are doing with the prints. I want to encourage others - please check them out. The prices make it so that a great deal of people could be able to support this effort... and support is definitely what a woman in this situation needs.

Is there any way we could donate to the fund directly? I know that sounds contrary to my advocating the print idea, but I was thinking maybe some would prefer that 100% of their money went directly to her (and not to stuff like shipping for the prints).

jmsetzler

Sony Alpha a6000

08/01/2006 11:54:28 PM · #6

Her husband will be responsible for child support and possibly alimony depending on what state they live in. She won't need legal representation. The state social services will represent her and she'll ream him and make him wish he had never done whatever he did.

dacrazyrn

Nikon D300

Nikon AF-S DX NIKKOR 18-200mm f/3.5-5.6G ED VR II

08/01/2006 11:57:20 PM · #7

Originally posted by jmsetzler:

Amen
You thuoght of setting up a PayPal account to donate money to directly?

Neuferland

Google Pixel 2

08/01/2006 11:57:30 PM · #8

As for the house if she is still making payments, look into selling it. Go to rental for now, will be better since if anything goes wrong the landlord is responsible for it, not her. Just something to think about. And who's name is on the bills? If they are joint she will share some responsibility, if just his name, she can make him pay them. Our house is only in Terry's name so if he dies I can walk away and not be hit with the foreclosure, we set it up that way.

Deannda

klstover

Panasonic DMC-FZ8

08/01/2006 11:57:37 PM · #9

Originally posted by jmsetzler:

Or it could end up like a family I know where the mom ended up "trading away" the right to the child support... it hadn't been paid for a long time and it was just easier to sign something saying she wouldn't take him to court if she could get him not to take her to court over the house. It looks like that works on paper... and maybe in practice it all works out in the end. But it is still a HUGE hassle logistically not to mention a very large emotional toll on parent and child alike.

GeneralE

Canon PowerShot S3 IS

Canon 12x IS USM (S3 IS built-in Lens) -- 36-432mm (35mm EQ)

08/01/2006 11:59:49 PM · #10

Originally posted by jmsetzler:

Yeah, what state/country is she in -- that might make a difference in what rights she has and services available. If they were legally married the state DA's office will usually help collect child-support.