Alcohol...makes me too honest...anyone else??

Tamron SP AF 28-75mm f/2.8 XR Di for Canon

11/10/2005 08:10:44 PM · #1

Ya know...and I'll be honest..I have been drinking. LIfe for me sucks. I have 1 thing that won't talk back and that's my camera. does what i want it to do. anyone else? I just have to vent tonight. i love my job, even my boss but it so complicated. anyone else...any advise? lost my dad in May...been kind of lost since. can't find who i'm suppoosed to be...........................................

sir_bazz

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Pentax FA 50mm f/1.4 AF

11/10/2005 08:22:10 PM · #2

G'day Gayle.

At the very least your a handy photographer who doesn't mind a drink :)

bazz.

philup

Canon EOS-5D

11/10/2005 08:28:36 PM · #3

I'm not sure about too honest but it makes me depressed...

Canon EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6 USM

11/10/2005 08:29:41 PM · #4

Originally posted by philup:

I'm not sure about too honest but it makes me depressed...

depressed...honest...all flows together for me

rox_rox

Canon EOS-20D

11/10/2005 08:37:36 PM · #5

Gayle,
I know exactly how you feel. My father died at a time in my life when I was trying to "find myself". I had already been planning a trip around the country in an RV with a camera. After sticking around with my stepmother for a couple of months, I went (minus the RV).

I was very unhappy with the choices I had been making in my life, and vowed to make a fresh start. Instead I traveled around, stayed with a friend and made some more bad judgement calls. And, yes, there was a lot of drinking invoved. I was in denial about how much losing my father affected me. It took quite a long time to pull myself out of the funk.

Got involved in a terrible relationship (which was actually the best thing that ever happened to me). I ended up in therapy and reading a lot of self-help books trying to make it work. That's when I can honestly say I started to know myself. I realized that I had "sickness" that caused me to be attracted to the wrong types of relationships. Once I sorted through a bunch of issues, it was as though a huge cloud lifted from over my life.

After I had gotten my act together I met an awesome guy. As it turns out, he is a lot like my father and helps me deal with the types of things I would have called on my father to help with. Of course, there's no replacing him; but I found it interesting that I finally met a man with many of the skills and abilities that I greatly admired in my own father.

Sorry about that long story. Just thought you should know that you are not alone.

I guess you really asked for advice, and this is what I have:
Forget about who you are supposed to be; that will come in due time. Find out who you are; and love her.

Nikon AF Nikkor 50mm f/1.8D

11/10/2005 09:11:44 PM · #6

thanks greatandsmall...i appreciate the the advice. its work and my boss i have to deal with. its so complicated. i have leaned on my boss so much during all this, he has pulled away his friendship and I'm lost again. its just....terrible in my head right now....just awful. I'm so confused....

wavelength

Nikon D300

11/10/2005 09:20:41 PM · #7

Gayle,

It's weird that you posted this tonight and my wife called not long after....

A friend of ours who has been depressed and drinking for a long while called her tonight. She had previously been in detox a few times, DUIs all sorts of problems. She had become depressed some years back for some reason (my wife has more intimate details) and used drinking to console herself.

She has reached the point right now that she cannot drink water without regurgitating it, much less food. She is on probation for other alcohol offenses, and has decided to turn herself in, as she has no money to pay for detox on her own. Now she'll have to go though DT in jail, because she has no other choice. She is signing custody of her son to her parents again.

My wife is writing a letter tonight so that she won't have to go long without mail....

Make the decision NOW to face your problems without a crutch, I don't know how heavy a drinker you are, but every time I tried to drink my own problems away, it only got worse.

Message edited by author 2005-11-10 21:21:44.

11/10/2005 10:08:22 PM · #8

I'm not a heavy drinker...not at least everyday. Just I'm at a not so great time in my life.....i'll get over it.

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11/10/2005 10:12:36 PM · #9

With a signature like yours you bet you will. We go through peaks and valleys all through life.

Mark

Canon EOS-600D/T3i Rebel

11/10/2005 10:15:47 PM · #10

I know this sounds corny, but from my limited experience with unhappyness, I've found that often just consiously smiling more often really improves your mood.

The psychology explanation is that smiling (forced or not) causes your brain to release endorphines, more or less making your expression influence your mood instead of the other way.

Just try it right now, as you're reading this... smile for about 5 seconds or so, and you'll probably feel a lot better. :)

Canon EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6 USM

11/10/2005 10:17:10 PM · #11

It really does work now I look like the Joker!

rox_rox

Canon EOS-20D

11/10/2005 10:23:15 PM · #12

Originally posted by Quickshutter:

I know this sounds corny, but from my limited experience with unhappyness, I've found that often just consiously smiling more often really improves your mood.

It's true. I've done this. It really works. The downside is that now I'm depressed because of all the wrinkles I have from smiling so much!

jrtodd

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11/10/2005 10:24:54 PM · #13

No matter the question, alcohol is the answer.

Not really

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11/10/2005 10:31:18 PM · #14

Originally posted by greatandsmall:

Originally posted by Quickshutter:
I know this sounds corny, but from my limited experience with unhappyness, I've found that often just consiously smiling more often really improves your mood.

It's true. I've done this. It really works. The downside is that now I'm depressed because of all the wrinkles I have from smiling so much!

A wrinkle never forgets.

petrakka

11/10/2005 10:33:25 PM · #15

there is a good side to every situation. every single one.

GeneralE

Canon PowerShot S3 IS

11/10/2005 10:35:02 PM · #16

The phrase in vino veritas has been around for about 2000 years : )

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11/10/2005 10:38:48 PM · #17

Originally posted by GeneralE:

The phrase in vino veritas has been around for about 2000 years : )

There is truth in wine!

wavelength

Nikon D300

11/10/2005 10:41:14 PM · #18

Originally posted by GeneralE:

The phrase in vino veritas has been around for about 2000 years : )

When I drank, I was mosltly lying to myself. But I did speak my mind a lot more freely.

GeneralE

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11/10/2005 10:48:17 PM · #19

Originally posted by jsas:

Originally posted by GeneralE:
The phrase in vino veritas has been around for about 2000 years : )

There is truth in wine!

Although there's more in sodium pentothal ...

Canon EF 16-35mm f/2.8 L USM

11/10/2005 10:58:51 PM · #20

Originally posted by GeneralE:

Originally posted by jsas:

Originally posted by GeneralE:
The phrase in vino veritas has been around for about 2000 years : )

There is truth in wine!

Although there's more in sodium pentothal ...

These days I prefer Mt.Dew for my truth serum.

oOWonderBreadOo

Canon EOS-5D

11/11/2005 03:25:39 AM · #21

Just want to say Gayle, how sorry I am about your Dad. Sometimes you don't realize how important someone is in your life... that is untill theye're gone... and you're drunk. And i am not saying that to condecend. Just absolutely I don't know how much it will effect me untill my own Dad is gone. He is so much established or commonplace in my life Im lucky to know how extraordinary he really is.
Sometimes being drunk helps us realize things we might not hold true in our everyday lives.
Peace~

MikeO

Fujifilm x100

11/11/2005 07:41:29 AM · #22

When I think times are hard or bad for me I look around and see other people with problems that make mine seem so insignificant. I went through a very bad time last year which nearly cost me everything that I hold precious in my life. Sometimes when you believe you have a massive problem you just need to sit down and look around, take stock of what you see going on in this world then look at yourself again and ask ''do I really have it that bad?''

If you need to talk pm me - i have a good ear

Mike