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03/15/2005 08:25:27 AM · #51 |
Personally just a few things:
Career- I want a job that pays well and that I enjoy doing.
Life- I'm not out to make an impact on the world. I want true friends, time to do things I enjoy(motocross, woodworking, photography, etc...) To be married and have children. To live long, see and do lots.
Relationship- To be loved completely, respected for who I am, to feel like I am needed, to be appreciated and not taken for granted. I want to be trusted completely. Total honesty. I want to fall asleep every night with the woman I love in my arms and to wake up every morning to her beautiful face. Be able to look into her beautiful brown eyes and tell her I love her and have her smile and say I love you too. To have my luv talk with me(I'm a listener). To have children and raise them the best we can. To grow old together. To share our entire lives together. To complete each other, make each other whole. Make love together every day. Etc...
I have been in an on again off again/long distance living together/long distance again relationship for almost three years. We have some, not all, of the things listed above. Right now she has been ingorning me for two weeks, I have no idea why. I love her with all my heart and soul and will forever. I feel that she is my one, my soul mate(I know alot of people don't believe in that kind of thing but I do)If we are not together I will be alone the rest of my life, never be married, have children etc..
Wendy is my everything, so basicly all I want out of life/career/relationship etc... is her.
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03/15/2005 08:31:59 AM · #52 |
Originally posted by GoldBerry:
What DO men want? In life, from their careers, from their women, their home lives? Are the sexes really THAT different? |
Beside you???
In life: to be happy at whatever I do.
My career: more money, less power/authority, less work, more holidays, and did I mention more money???
From A women?: well since I'm single I'm gonna have to say YOU again and feel free to ask for details :D
(in a woman there has to be lots of understanding, trust, loyality etc.)
My home life: A maid, peace, no phone, a girlfriend/wife (wife is optional lol)
Sexes that different???: yes for the most part BUT not all guys are created or act the same. For one I am not affraid to act impulsively and enjoy nothing more then making my better half fell like nothing in the world is more important then her. BUT on the same hand she has to be understanding that when I'm busy she can't always be pampered etc...
What is it your looking for by asking these questions???
Message edited by author 2005-03-15 08:32:21.
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03/15/2005 08:34:05 AM · #53 |
Originally posted by GoldBerry:
What DO men want? In life, from their careers, from their women, their home lives? Are the sexes really THAT different? |
1. Simplicity... A clear idea of where they are at and where they are heading. A man that doesn't have a clear idea where he is and where he is going is a frustrated creature that will try anything, even self-destructive behavior until they find that simple direction. I have seen this in my own past behavior and the behavior of virtually all of my male friends. This fits both proffesional pursuits and relationships as well.
2. Direct and clear communication that leaves nothing to interpretation. If a woman wants something from a man, or is in a particular mood, she should tell the man in as direct and clearly *verbal* manner as possible. A great example of this, which is something I just discovered this weekend BTW, is my Saturday and Sunday mornings.
My wife goes into the bathroom and tosses her night clothes out into the bedroom, just in my view where I sit in the 'office space'. I see this as her wanting to 'get it on', in her mind she is trying to tell me that she wants me to get motivated and get going for the day and she isn't interested in 'getting it on'. When I look back at previous relationships, I have come to the realization that all the women I dated did things like that.
Those two things alone would greatly enhance my mood...
...and as another poster said, "Sex, lots and lots of sex."
But seriously, the major problem that I have had with relationships with women is the lack of direct clear communication. As a man, I know that most everything not related to some gadget, gizmo or doo-dad in the average male mind revolves around sex, sexual innuendo or leads to sex. If a woman does something slightly out of the 'ordinary' then a man's first thought is 'sex', when that doesn't happen (in a 'timely' fashion), the man gets slightly perterbed, if this happens enough, not so good things can happen in a relationship. |
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03/15/2005 09:02:45 AM · #54 |
Originally posted by agrimace:
Originally posted by Ecce Signum:
I want what you want :) |
"Whatever you want Dear...." |
You have been trained well. ;)
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03/15/2005 09:43:26 AM · #55 |
Originally posted by laurielblack:
Based on my experiences, I would be inclined to believe that men want respect, admiration, trust, compassion, and dignity. They want to feel like they are important to and validated by the women in their lives as well as by their careers. They want to know that they are doing a good job, either at work or at home. They need encouragement, humor, and lots of patience. Not dissimilar to us, really.
Except one little part... most would probably like to be married to some genetically-enhanced clone combined from the chromosomes of Pamela Anderson and June Cleaver. ;o) |
I think you're very close, but it would have to be Pamela Anderson just as she was starting in show business (Budweiser ads wasn't it?), and she would have to be a virgin. Good luck finding that!
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03/15/2005 09:53:59 AM · #56 |
Originally posted by PhilipDyer:
We want to know what women want. Well...? |
Women also want to feel respected. Not to feel like they're work around the house (if they do that stuff) isn't appreciated for what it is...WORK, this includes cleaning, laudry, the kids, cooking...whatever. If we don't work outside the house it doesn't mean we don't contribute. Don't come home and expect diner on the table - cook it your darned self if you're that hungry.
We want a man that can have a sense of humor about life but not crack a joke at EVERYTHING - Life can be funny, but not everything is funny all the time. the converse is true as well.
We want to be loved and appreciated and taken to nice places (on occasion), though staying at home and relaxing is fun too.
We want our SO to be our best friend, our lover, our shoulder to cry on, and for him to trust us to let us take care of him as well.
At least that's what I want.
Too much?
Stephanie
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03/15/2005 09:56:17 AM · #57 |
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03/15/2005 10:00:05 AM · #58 |
Originally posted by atsxus:
At least that's what I want.
Too much? |
Since I'm already married, yes, it's too much. But maybe I can fit you in on the weekends. Are you a virgin Pam Anderson look-alike? ;^)
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03/15/2005 10:00:22 AM · #59 |
Originally posted by cghubbell:
A woman who understands that focal length is VERY important, and she should understand the importance of having multiple bodies! |
LOL!!!
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03/15/2005 10:01:12 AM · #60 |
Originally posted by agrimace:
Originally posted by Ecce Signum:
I want what you want :) |
"Whatever you want Dear...." |
While that is funny, and true for a lot of people, I want my SO to have an OPINION. "Whatever you want dear" will tick me off to the nth.
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03/15/2005 10:03:56 AM · #61 |
Originally posted by micknewton:
Originally posted by laurielblack:
Based on my experiences, I would be inclined to believe that men want respect, admiration, trust, compassion, and dignity. They want to feel like they are important to and validated by the women in their lives as well as by their careers. They want to know that they are doing a good job, either at work or at home. They need encouragement, humor, and lots of patience. Not dissimilar to us, really.
Except one little part... most would probably like to be married to some genetically-enhanced clone combined from the chromosomes of Pamela Anderson and June Cleaver. ;o) |
I think you're very close, but it would have to be Pamela Anderson just as she was starting in show business (Budweiser ads wasn't it?), and she would have to be a virgin. Good luck finding that! |
Virgins aren't so rare as you think....
I'll leave it at that.
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03/15/2005 10:05:15 AM · #62 |
Originally posted by micknewton:
Originally posted by atsxus:
At least that's what I want.
Too much? |
Since I'm already married, yes, it's too much. But maybe I can fit you in on the weekends. Are you a virgin Pam Anderson look-alike? ;^) |
Pam Anderson?...no - but my pic is in my profile.
Message edited by author 2005-03-15 10:06:10.
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03/15/2005 10:11:58 AM · #63 |
Men don't necesarily want power they want to feel powerfull. We enjoy it when a woman holds on to us during a scary movie. We see ourselves as the protector of our families. We gain a sence of pride feeling like the protector..
Money not realy impotaint to us.. We just like all of the the things we could purchase with it. Bigger TV, New camera, Tickets to africa. Men are compulsive by nature we just want to have enough money to do everything we want and to do it all now..
Younger women.. becouse were pigs..no not realy. I feel we wan't younger women for a couple of reasons. First because as women grow older the grow more independant and rely on men less for security .. wich goes back to the first part on power. Second We are afraid of dying. Much like an old lion who is close to being overthrown as the alpha of his pride. Men tend to sleep with younger women so that they can feel that they are still on top. That they can still catch the elusive nymph. Men are afraid of growing old.
Sports... men compete with everything.. if the man next door get a pool we want a bigger one. We play pool, hocky, football, cards and thousands of other sports just so we can compete with eachother. Men are very compeditive.. so if you have trouble getting us to do a hony-do such as mowing the grass use our compeditive nature against us. Tell us our neighbors yard looks better. Don't yell and nag at us because we are in charge (until you prove otherwise) and will just ingnore you and turn up the TV.
Food we love food... don't ask us what we wan't for dinner we usualy don't care. so long as it looks like it took some effort to make and has meat in it.
oh yes and I almost forgot..And beer and tiddies.
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03/15/2005 10:12:52 AM · #64 |
Originally posted by atsxus:
Virgins aren't so rare as you think....
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Sure, there must be millions of girls in the US who are under 12. (sarcasm)
Or is that just an Alabama thing.
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03/15/2005 10:16:54 AM · #65 |
Originally posted by nsbca7:
Originally posted by atsxus:
Virgins aren't so rare as you think....
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Sure, there must be millions of girls in the US who are under 12. (sarcasm)
Or is that just an Alabama thing. |
Must be a united states thing :S or was that catholic???
atsxus - saw your profile pic and must say not bad not bad :) when goldberry shoots me down yet again why not come to canada and live in my igloo with me :D seal fat and eggs for breakfast everyday :S lol
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03/15/2005 10:20:37 AM · #66 |
I do believe that a lot of men would love to meet that one lady who thinks they perfect at the onset, and then doesn't spend the rest of their relationship trying to change them ... hehehehe
With regards to marriage I must re-visit those word my father told me many many years ago... he said
Son...
Marriage is a sacred institutions that is based on love... but
Love is blind, so that makes marriage, an institution for the blind.
(I am kidding of course) Marriage means learning as many of the 3 magic phrases as possible, and knowing when and where to use them ..such as
I'm So Sorry, Whatever You Say, Won't Happen Again, I Stand Corrected..
These are but a few examples.
Ray
Message edited by author 2005-03-15 10:30:18. |
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03/15/2005 10:22:51 AM · #67 |
Who cares what men want? It's enough for me to deal with my own life and what I want.
Message edited by author 2005-03-15 10:24:00. |
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03/15/2005 10:23:18 AM · #68 |
Originally posted by atsxus:
Pam Anderson?...no - but my pic is in my profile. |
Very nice! But it looks like you're sleeping. Wake up and make me some coffee, then we can talk. :)
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03/15/2005 10:34:45 AM · #69 |
Originally posted by notonline:
Originally posted by nsbca7:
Originally posted by atsxus:
Virgins aren't so rare as you think....
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Sure, there must be millions of girls in the US who are under 12. (sarcasm)
Or is that just an Alabama thing. |
Must be a united states thing :S or was that catholic???
atsxus - saw your profile pic and must say not bad not bad :) when goldberry shoots me down yet again why not come to canada and live in my igloo with me :D seal fat and eggs for breakfast everyday :S lol |
Um...depends on which part of Canada. :) Love Vancouver! Don't much care for igloos though.
And thanks for the compliment...I think... :)
Stephanie
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03/15/2005 10:38:41 AM · #70 |
Originally posted by RayEthier:
Marriage means learning as many of the 3 magic phrases as possible, and knowing when and where to use them ..such as
I'm So Sorry, Whatever You Say, Won't Happen Again, I Stand Corrected..
These are but a few examples.
Ray |
That's 4 phrases, not 3. :)
and you can stand, sit, lie down, kneel....corrected as well. :)
Stephanie
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03/15/2005 10:39:22 AM · #71 |
Originally posted by w24x192:
Originally posted by laurielblack:
...most would probably like to be married to some genetically-enhanced clone combined from the chromosomes of Pamela Anderson and June Cleaver. ;o) |
Why is everyone so wrapped up in that plasticine Pamela Anderson? That's just...nasty. |
She was pretty hot before all the surgery, now she's just, as you rightly say, nasty.
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03/15/2005 10:39:50 AM · #72 |
1. air
2. water
3. sex
4. food( including a good beer and or glass of wine)
5. rock and roll and sports
6. money, including cars
7. companionship/friendship (someone to share teh air, water food, sex and music with)
8. the meaning of life
9. the thrill of the chase
10. the cocaine rush of new love
11. the heroin comfort of sustained love.
not in any order and not complete, just a good start
Message edited by author 2005-03-16 10:00:08. |
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03/15/2005 10:40:00 AM · #73 |
Originally posted by micknewton:
Originally posted by atsxus:
Pam Anderson?...no - but my pic is in my profile. |
Very nice! But it looks like you're sleeping. Wake up and make me some coffee, then we can talk. :) |
actually, I was posing for the pic....shhhh, don't tell anyone. :)
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03/15/2005 10:44:03 AM · #74 |
for the women (or myself)...
The ability to be lewd and crude one day (or moment) and a perfect lady the next.
I like my beer (sometimes) and my baseball (all the time) and I will shout louder then any guy (if I want) at a game.
The men want their beer and tiddies....
I want my alcohol of choice and dikkies. :) No - not the thing that's a quasai turtle neck thingie, those are just WIERD!
Message edited by author 2005-03-15 10:44:14.
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03/15/2005 10:48:24 AM · #75 |
I am married (8 months in) and I think, but I may need wrong, all my husband really wants is to drive fast and play hard, everything else is secondary (except me of course)
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