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08/02/2010 04:55:35 PM · #1 |
My best friend, whom I talk to every day and have supported in every aspect of their lives daily, from advice, to love, to money, through depression for support for them just sent me this email.
I have moved on with my life, do not contact me again.
I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face 3 odd years of friendship gone in a split second.
my heart is breaking |
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08/02/2010 05:04:50 PM · #2 |
| A very cryptic message to me since I have to context for it. Maybe it is a frustrated plea for help or a shoulder to cry on? Maybe they are mad at you over something you are unaware of? |
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08/02/2010 05:05:30 PM · #3 |
I'm afraid for you... but in Italy there is a phrase that sounds like this:
"Who does not want me I do not deserve"
i do not if in english the meaning is the same, i hope...
it's hard, but life is also this... |
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08/02/2010 05:22:04 PM · #4 |
Originally posted by JulietNN:
My best friend, whom I talk to every day and have supported in every aspect of their lives daily, from advice, to love, to money, through depression for support for them just sent me this email.
I have moved on with my life, do not contact me again.
I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face 3 odd years of friendship gone in a split second.
my heart is breaking |
Damn, that's cold... I feel for you Juliet.
This is very, incredibly short, so I've no real context here, but..
From the little you describe, it doesn't sound like you had a situation in which you had invested heavily into a "friend" who had no re-investment.
It might sound cold and calculating, but freindship requires mutual investment, and I don't hear from you that they invested much in you, therefore it's possible they perceived no value.
Beyond that, this person is a serious candidate for a classic "user" type person... Essentially, it sounds like you might well be much better off without them (and I would NOT re-acquaint)...
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I'm sure it's too soon to think super clearly, but take a day or two and think about what kind of friend this person is/was... I suspect they might not be quite the friend you had previously perceived them to be....
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08/02/2010 05:23:51 PM · #5 |
Originally posted by GiorgioBaruffi:
I'm afraid for you... but in Italy there is a phrase that sounds like this:
"Who does not want me I do not deserve"
i do not if in english the meaning is the same, i hope...
it's hard, but life is also this... |
If I understand you correctly Giorgio, I think the better English phrase might be "You're better off without them" :) |
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08/02/2010 05:26:57 PM · #6 |
well i dunno, i kept asking what was going on with his silence these last 3 weeks and then got that email, guess he doesn't want me in his life anymore, i am not useful to him anymore, he found something else to be more interested in, I guess.
his loss, my loss, no winners in this circle |
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08/02/2010 05:46:18 PM · #7 |
Originally posted by JulietNN:
well i dunno, i kept asking what was going on with his silence these last 3 weeks and then got that email, guess he doesn't want me in his life anymore, i am not useful to him anymore, he found something else to be more interested in, I guess.
his loss, my loss, no winners in this circle |
There's a rather outdated therapy method in where therapists used to (and perhaps, by this account, some still do) suggest to their clients to cut ALL contact with people from the life they were living before their therapy. This usually just includes friends and acquaintances, but sometimes was bullied enough to include family as well. A therapist I had once suggested this method, but I got another damn therapist.
Perhaps something like that is happening?
No matter how, or why, I can only imagine the heartbreak. Something like that, without any kind of closure, is even worse. I feel for you.
Message edited by author 2010-08-02 17:46:42.
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08/02/2010 05:59:07 PM · #8 |
Originally posted by K10DGuy:
Originally posted by JulietNN:
well i dunno, i kept asking what was going on with his silence these last 3 weeks and then got that email, guess he doesn't want me in his life anymore, i am not useful to him anymore, he found something else to be more interested in, I guess.
his loss, my loss, no winners in this circle |
There's a rather outdated therapy method in where therapists used to (and perhaps, by this account, some still do) suggest to their clients to cut ALL contact with people from the life they were living before their therapy. This usually just includes friends and acquaintances, but sometimes was bullied enough to include family as well. A therapist I had once suggested this method, but I got another damn therapist.
Perhaps something like that is happening?
No matter how, or why, I can only imagine the heartbreak. Something like that, without any kind of closure, is even worse. I feel for you. |
That's an extraordinary idea! Advise your clients to damage as many other people as possible, thereby increasing the overall pool of clients... :o\ |
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08/02/2010 07:35:24 PM · #9 |
| Sorry you are hurting. Losing friends hurts and not knowing why hurts more. Hugs, Juliet. I can't speculate on what happened or why. But you have lots of good friends 'round here though. Sure I'm only "virtual", but if you prick me, do I not bleed? Ok, bad example because you can't physically prick me from clear over there, but you can always poke me on Facebook. :-) |
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08/02/2010 08:07:55 PM · #10 |
I am all right now, got over the shock and a bit calmer.
Such is life sometimes.
Time to buy some serious shoes!!
And I will poke you anytime Ken xox |
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08/02/2010 08:42:03 PM · #11 |
| I am really sorry. They have lost much more than you have. |
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08/03/2010 03:01:52 PM · #12 |
Originally posted by JulietNN:
Time to buy some serious shoes!! |
Shoes? Why not feed the camera bag with a new lens instead? You can't fit a shoe on a camera (unless it's a hotshoe). |
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08/08/2010 09:42:59 PM · #13 |
LOL, I bought a new pair of kick arse Christian Louboutin boots and pee a toe black sling backs (always wanted a pair), a vacation in Mexico for 2 weeks over Christmas and a Canon 70-200, and a workshop with Manny in Vegas.
Would still rather have my friend back though, but Dave has moved on and obviously going in a different direction. I wish him luck with his new fiancée and the future they have together. |
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08/08/2010 10:07:13 PM · #14 |
Originally posted by JulietNN:
LOL, I bought a new pair of kick arse Christian Louboutin boots and pee a toe black sling backs (always wanted a pair), a vacation in Mexico for 2 weeks over Christmas and a Canon 70-200, and a workshop with Manny in Vegas.
Would still rather have my friend back though, but Dave has moved on and obviously going in a different direction. I wish him luck with his new fiancée and the future they have together. |
well if you feel the need to shop anymore I have a pretty empty canon camera bag over here that would love to be filled up LOL!!! jk! glad you had fun... the mexico vacation sounds like a blast!
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08/11/2010 06:22:44 AM · #15 |
Originally posted by JulietNN:
new fiancée |
Just guessing - but nail and head seem to be connecting with these two words...
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