Why do employers need to be so by the bloody book!

03/24/2007 10:42:34 PM · #1

grrr im maad, there is a co-worker of mine who's boyfriend just did something really bad to her and has treated her like crap for some time now(prefer not to go into details). anyways today he did somehting then she finally broke up with him and then he is doing some other shit and shes really upset and had to leave. i was talking to her before she left about it and making her feel better and she liked to get it of her chest, but then she had to leave and it slipped my mind to ask for her number so she can talk more about it and get it off her chest. But now my manager is refusing to give me her number so i can see how she is, my manager wont even call her and give her my number, or call her and ask for permission to give me her number. i hate this so much. I know she needs to talk to someone, she needs help and my manager doesnt give a shit. s/he is just saying "i dont want to be involved in her personal life".
I absolutly can't stand that she needs someone to talk to, and im able to help her, but there's one obstacle in the way that can easily be removed. it really bugs me, i hate seeing people in need and knowing i can help but something is blocking me. grrrrr. i hope shes okay

RayEthier

Canon EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6 USM

03/24/2007 10:56:29 PM · #2

The manager is in all likelihood adhering to the Privacy Act which dictates that you cannot share information of a personal nature with others without prior consent.

Ray

03/24/2007 10:59:46 PM · #3

Originally posted by RayEthier:

The manager is in all likelihood adhering to the Privacy Act which dictates that you cannot share information of a personal nature with others without prior consent.

Ray

thats why i made an offer of him calling her which would take 30 seconds max to either ask permission or give my number to her. whihc i gave permission

Spork99

OM System OM-1

03/24/2007 11:06:04 PM · #4

So that if you turn out to be some kind of stalking freak, your boss doesn't get sued by her or her survivors.

Why don't you look up her number in the phone book? Or google her? Or ask a mutual friend?

Leave your boss out of the soap opera.

Tamron SP AF 17-50mm f/2.8 Di II LD Aspherical (IF) for Canon

03/24/2007 11:11:19 PM · #5

Originally posted by Spazmo99:

i don't know her last name, they won't give me that either, i know her last initial is M though.
i kind of feel like a stalker doing this but i just know what itsl ike to go through this stuff and don't want her to be in the same situatino

Phil

Canon EOS-7D

03/24/2007 11:37:55 PM · #6

LanceW

Nikon Z9

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03/25/2007 12:02:43 AM · #7

Originally posted by noisemaker:

i was talking to her before she left about it and making her feel better and she liked to get it of her chest, but then she had to leave and it slipped my mind to ask for her number so she can talk more about it and get it off her chest. But now my manager is refusing to give me her number s

Dude, if she didn't give you here number than don't ask someone else for it, my god. Are you a stalker or something? ;-)

Sony 24-70mm F4 Vario-Tessar T* FE OSS

03/25/2007 12:09:42 AM · #8

Originally posted by tooohip:

Originally posted by noisemaker:
i was talking to her before she left about it and making her feel better and she liked to get it of her chest, but then she had to leave and it slipped my mind to ask for her number so she can talk more about it and get it off her chest. But now my manager is refusing to give me her number s

Dude, if she didn't give you here number than don't ask someone else for it, my god. Are you a stalker or something? ;-)

i never asked. im trying to be nice and lend a hand.

Bear_Music

Samsung Galaxy S24 Ultra

03/25/2007 12:57:59 AM · #9

If you don't know her name, don't know where she lives, don't have her phone number or her e-mail addy, then realistically you don't know her well enough to be pursuing this. I certainly understand why your supervisor won't call her; that's getting into areas he has no business poking into.

Just my opinion.

R.

Nikon AF-S DX NIKKOR 18-200mm f/3.5-5.6G ED VR II

03/25/2007 01:22:46 AM · #10

Originally posted by Bear_Music:

i don't know like any of my friends last names :P were just acquantinces.
i guess i can understand why but i dont think its right. can'tyou see my side of where im coming from?

Nikon D200

03/25/2007 02:12:17 AM · #11

@noisemaker She knows where to find you, if she wants to, right?

Nikon AF Nikkor 20mm f/2.8D

03/25/2007 02:20:34 AM · #12

I'm betting your boss won't give you her number because of your nose piercing. ;-)

LanceW

Nikon Z9

03/25/2007 02:23:19 AM · #13

Originally posted by noisemaker:

don't know like any of my friends last names :P were just acquantinces.
i guess i can understand why but i dont think its right. can'tyou see my side of where im coming from?

If you don't know your "friends" last names, they aint your friends! You are sounding more and more like a stalker to me man.

Message edited by author 2007-03-25 02:24:04.

03/25/2007 02:33:14 AM · #14

Originally posted by tooohip:

Originally posted by noisemaker:

don't know like any of my friends last names :P were just acquantinces.
i guess i can understand why but i dont think its right. can'tyou see my side of where im coming from?

If you don't know your "friends" last names, they aint your friends! You are sounding more and more like a stalker to me man.

glad you think you know my personal life.... ;)

03/25/2007 02:33:38 AM · #15

Originally posted by Art Roflmao:

I'm betting your boss won't give you her number because of your nose piercing. ;-)

actually are work just started allowing nose piercings which is crazy

03/25/2007 02:34:53 AM · #16

Originally posted by noisemaker:

Originally posted by Art Roflmao:
I'm betting your boss won't give you her number because of your nose piercing. ;-)

actually are work just started allowing nose piercings which is crazy

I agree. :)

Spork99

OM System OM-1

03/25/2007 02:36:52 AM · #17

Originally posted by noisemaker:

i kind of feel like a stalker doing this ...

That's a good reason to back off unless you want to be a stalker.

03/25/2007 02:44:27 AM · #18

Originally posted by Spazmo99:

Originally posted by noisemaker:

i kind of feel like a stalker doing this ...

That's a good reason to back off unless you want to be a stalker.

haa i was being sarcastic :P

03/25/2007 02:53:52 AM · #19

Originally posted by noisemaker:

Originally posted by Spazmo99:

Originally posted by noisemaker:

i kind of feel like a stalker doing this ...

That's a good reason to back off unless you want to be a stalker.

haa i was being sarcastic :P

Most of the folks who posted their response to your thread were not being sarcastic - the concern is that you could be perceived as a stalker (assuming you aren't one).

Anyway - I think you should take people's advice and let it go and certainly don't hold a grudge against your boss. Let's say some psycho-gurl you work with has been hitting on you and you think she's a freakin nutcase and after you leave, she asks the boss for your number or address cuz she thinks you are in danger or emotional peril of some sort. (And just for giggles, let's say she has a bone through her nose) Let's say your boss gives her your phone number and your address and one thing leads to another and soon your severed, shrunken head is sitting on her mantle. How would you feel?

:)

03/25/2007 02:57:42 AM · #20

Originally posted by Art Roflmao:

Originally posted by noisemaker:

Originally posted by Spazmo99:

Originally posted by noisemaker:

i kind of feel like a stalker doing this ...

That's a good reason to back off unless you want to be a stalker.

haa i was being sarcastic :P

Most of the folks who posted their response to your thread were not being sarcastic - the concern is that you could be perceived as a stalker (assuming you aren't one).

Anyway - I think you should take people's advice and let it go and certainly don't hold a grudge against your boss. Let's say some psycho-gurl you work with has been hitting on you and you think she's a freakin nutcase and after you leave, she asks the boss for your number or address cuz she thinks you are in danger or emotional peril of some sort. (And just for giggles, let's say she has a bone through her nose) Let's say your boss gives her your phone number and your address and one thing leads to another and soon your severed, shrunken head is sitting on her mantle. How would you feel?

:)

oh im definitly not holding a grudge, i made this thread at work mad with too low of a blood sugar level. I totally understand why he didnt. I was definitly not hitting on her! I guess i just felt like it was my obligation to make see if shes okay. I tend to worry about others alot. i don't know if thats a good thing or bad thing though...

as for how id feel well... you know... i'd feel pretty dead you know, with my shrunken head on her mantle..:P

TechnoShroom

Canon EOS-30D

03/25/2007 03:12:14 AM · #21

Originally posted by noisemaker:

I tend to worry about others alot. i don't know if thats a good thing or bad thing though...

Bad

03/25/2007 03:16:05 AM · #22

Originally posted by noisemaker:

as for how id feel well... you know... i'd feel pretty dead you know, with my shrunken head on her mantle..:P

Yeah, but now that I visualized the idea, I gotta admit it would look pretty cool! How about emailing me your adresss so I can uh... er... send you a print - yeah that's it.

:P just kidding. For God's sake don't send me your address.

Spork99

OM System OM-1

03/25/2007 03:17:43 AM · #23

Originally posted by noisemaker:

I wasn't.

03/25/2007 03:21:13 AM · #24

Originally posted by Art Roflmao:

Originally posted by noisemaker:
as for how id feel well... you know... i'd feel pretty dead you know, with my shrunken head on her mantle..:P

Yeah, but now that I visualized the idea, I gotta admit it would look pretty cool! How about emailing me your adresss so I can uh... er... send you a print - yeah that's it.

:P just kidding. For God's sake don't send me your address.

haha! thats pretty creepy, but i do look pretty good