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 08/02/2006 11:13:17 AM · #51
Don't tempt me! I might pic the wrong subject to photograph dead....Dark humor in a time of despair
 08/02/2006 11:44:08 AM · #52
Here's a big hug for Heather (I haven't taken a shower yet, this morning).The rest of you can have one if you like. Otherwise I'll come back later, when I smell better.

Seriously though. My heart goes out to all of you who are hurting right now. There was a time (not very long ago) that I was beginning to wonder if I'd ever find happiness in love. I'd like to offer you some words of hope from Emily Dickinson:

"Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all,

And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.

I've heard it in the chillest land,
And on the strangest sea;
Yet, never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me."

Here's my prescription for survival:
1) Cry as often and as hard as you can. Force yourself to rehash every detail and wallow in abject self pity until you're so exhausted that you can't think about it any more.
2) Write in a journal, write bad poetry or record yourself singing.
3) Read books that will help you work through your pain.
4) Rent every funny movie you can find.
5) Force yourself to go out in public every day.
6) Search out kindred souls and make new friends. (You're off to a good start on this one.)
7) Avoid getting romantically involved for a long time.

Message edited by author 2006-08-02 11:54:59.
 08/02/2006 11:46:26 AM · #53
8) buy Diva by Annie Lennox and play it over and over again
 08/02/2006 11:55:40 AM · #54
Originally posted by posthumous:
8) buy Diva by Annie Lennox and play it over and over again


And then record yourself singing along with it;)
 08/02/2006 12:07:31 PM · #55
to timmi and heather and coronamv I send all my greatest hugs and warmest comforts. You are not alone, you are not at fault, and you absolutely deserve all the love and support you get from the crazies here and all those in your life. I feel honoured that you would allow us to help you in this time of need. *greatbigbearhugs*
 08/02/2006 12:26:04 PM · #56
Originally posted by greatandsmall:
...record yourself singing.

It would help us all if you post your MP3

Originally posted by greatandsmall:
Read books that will help you work through your pain.

The author, George Hayduke comes to mind (google him)

Originally posted by greatandsmall:
Force yourself to go out in public every day.

In your underwear.
08/02/2006 12:54:58 PM · #57
8) Read every post that Art Roflmao has ever made;)
 08/02/2006 12:55:55 PM · #58
I was on my way home from Montgomery Alabama last week and was chanel surfing. came across this guy who was talking about "reason". Being not a very religious person"I do have beliefs just turned off by the hipocritial religious man made organizations" I found myself glued to the speaker. So much to the point I did not realize it was a Gospel chanel. What shock I felt to have found someone who could reinstall the loss I felt inside. I was so moved to force myself to resite the webaddress of the site they said his work could be found at. Reminding you I am driving at a fast rate of speed so could not write it down. His name is Ravi Zacharias. I am currently reading Recapture the Wonder and awaiting the 3 cd set titles In the Search of Truth. If you like I will send you the book when I am finished reading it in a couple of days. SO you may find comfort in knowing the trees are still green, the sky is still blue. I have to remind myself at times to look around and see the world from a child's Eyes. And be amazed and thankful that I am still alive. This I invite you regardless of religion or faith. And when you are done you can sign it and send it to someone else who feels empty like I do at times in hope that it may help someone feel alive again. No strings just a kind gesture. I ask this question to all of you. Honestly how many flowers have you photographed and not took the time to smell?
 08/02/2006 01:16:02 PM · #59
OK, I'm clean now.

Here's a HUGE HUG for Nella and one for Mark, too!

Things will get better.
 08/02/2006 06:30:22 PM · #60
Hang in their Mark.


08/02/2006 09:51:07 PM · #61
I wish both of you the best, Nella and Mark...it will get better, I promise.


08/02/2006 10:08:11 PM · #62
Nella,
I was single for 13 years. When I first got divorced it was very painfull. Lonely, all alone, no one to talk too and down right sad. My job took priority one. Starting a new life. Setting new goals, exploring a new hobby (music)(I play the keyboard and Guitar). This slowly took over my life and I slowly became somewhat normal. It took me 13 years before I met and married my new wife. Music is what kept me sane during that time. I composed and recorded numerous songs that allowed me to release my feelings. Perhaps photography will help you during this rough times. We from DPC will be here to help you! We are a family and I am sure if you needed anything someone will be there for you. A big hug from me!!!!!
 08/02/2006 10:09:54 PM · #63
Slightly off-topics, but anyone watched "CLICK" starring Adam Sandler?
It's hilarious but also sad, and I think it's quite a reminder to us "busy" folks that sometimes, there are more important things in life than our own passion or work.

update: critical spelling corrected! Thanks Art :p

Message edited by author 2006-08-02 22:29:47.
 08/02/2006 10:22:55 PM · #64
Click. It's "Click" ...not "Switch"

*Department of Corrections*
 08/02/2006 10:33:01 PM · #65
Originally posted by Art Roflmao:
*Department of Corrections*


This picture immediately comes to mind - a detailed and perfectionist guy sitting in front of his computer, carefully searching for typos and correcting spellings ;)

08/02/2006 11:57:59 PM · #66
Originally posted by timmi:
I've never posted such a message... But I don't know where to turn to...

I feel so very alone in this whole wide world. I am going through a very painful divorce. I have no family here in Canada (other than my child) and not too many friends that would understand.

I am so tired of crying myself to sleep every night, and waking up feeling like I don't matter to anyone anymore. I am not among those who would easily felt sorry fo myself, but it hurts so much it's hard to breathe.

I am so tired of coming home after work to an empty appartment. No one to talk to. No one who would say "honey, how was your day"... no one who would hug me and tell me that "it's going to be all OK"...

I am so very lost...

I have not been able to take a decent shot for months. I feel like the biggest looser.

Is there anyone out there who knows how I feel? Have any of you experienced such a loneliness and pain?

I appologize to those who are not interested in my tears. I am not looking for someone to feel sorry for me, I just need a hug.
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Message edited by author 2006-08-02 23:58:24.
 08/03/2006 12:01:00 AM · #67
Originally posted by Keiomi:
[quote=timmi] b]text[/b]
TIMM IT GETS BETTER. I KNO HOW YOU FEEL. IM SORRY YOU OR ANYONE HAS TO GO THRU THAT TYPE OF STUFF. WHEN GOD SHUTS A DOOR HE OPENS A WINDOW.LOOK FOR THE LIGHT.
 08/03/2006 12:25:54 AM · #68
Timmi, Heather, and Mark (and anyone else I missed), you certainly can have all the hugs here we can give you.

Have you thought about seeing a counselor, though? Online hugs can only do so much. It sounds like talking to someone might provide some support you need right now.

Oh - HUG (I don't have any cute smileys).
 08/03/2006 12:30:29 AM · #69
Originally posted by timmi:
Is there anyone out there who knows how I feel? Have any of you experienced such a loneliness and pain?


Yes, and yes but only briefly. I went through a very ugly split with my [cough] 2nd husband about 8 years ago. Of all the things that got me through with a huge grin on my face, was a silly pop song on the charts at the time. The reason being, that I practically did everything in that song and then some [evil grin]...

Here you go, maybe it'll help you a little too:

While he was scheming
I was beamin' in the Beamer just beamin'
Can't believe that I caught my man cheatin'
So I found another way to make him pay for it all

So I went to Neiman-Marcus on a shopping spree
And on the way I grabbed Soley and Mia
And as the cash box rang
I thought everything away

(Oops) There goes the dreams we used to say
(Oops) There goes the time we spent away
(Oops) There goes the love I had
But you cheated on me and that's worth that now

(Oops) There goes the house we made a home
(Oops) There goes you'll never leave me alone
(Oops) For all the lies you told
This is what you owe

Hey ladies, when your man wanna get buckwild
Just go back and hit 'em up style
Put your hands on his cash and spend it to the last dime
For all the hard times

When you go then everything goes
From the crib to the ride and the clothes
So you better let him know that if he messed up
You gotta hit 'em up

While he was braggin'
I was coming down the hill and just draggin'
All his pictures and his clothes in the bag
And sold everything else till there was just nothin' left

And I paid all the bills about a month too late
It's a shame we have to play these games
The love we had just fades away, away

All of the dreams you sold
Left me out in the cold
What happened to the days
When we used to trust each other
And all of the things I sold
Will take you until you get old
To get 'em back without me
'Cause revenge is better than money you'll see.

- Hit'em Up Style, Blu Cantrell
 08/03/2006 05:12:23 AM · #70
Wow, you guys are awesome! All of you!

I went to work (it was a long one 14 hrs shift...) and returned to this wonderful thread full of great posts.

There is a long weekend coming up here in Canada. It's going to be a rough one for me:

See, my husband's brother is getting married and the whole family will be there including my son. Except me. I was not invited. They casted me off already. And what's the hardest part - my husband is showing up at the wedding with his new lady... It makes me wanna throw up. It makes my son uncomfortable as it is, but to be replaced so soon... (he only left in May) It just hurst so very much.

14 years apparently didn't mean much to my husband. The divorce papers will be ready in October. So Christmas this year, well... what Christmas...? There will be no Christams for me. No Thanksgiving, no birthday celebration... just emptyness awaits in the near future.

I know this will come to pass. But what happens in the time before it does? I thought I used to be so strong. Nothing could ever faze me, but now. It's a whole different story. My strenght came from my family, from knowing I matter to someone.

My son is a teenager. You know, the tall, hairy, scarry creature that lurks around my computer all the time and never appears to show that he cares... So I cannot expect him to understand. He has hard time with it as it is, without me burdening him with my feelings.

Anyway, I am just blurbing here. I don't really have a point, do I? Just write what I feel. So there.
 08/03/2006 05:54:19 AM · #71
Originally posted by timmi:
There is a long weekend coming up here in Canada. It's going to be a rough one for me:


Get out and shoot dead things this weekend! :) Seriously.
And the sooner you focus on something positive the better. You're still very young. Get yourself into a healthy routine. Take care of yourself. Get excited about something. Put it behind you as much as you can.

...pep talk from a man is probably not helping. :(

back to {{{hugs}}}.
 08/03/2006 05:59:33 AM · #72
if the hugs dont work, you're welcomed to kick Art
 08/03/2006 06:00:54 AM · #73
08/03/2006 07:31:41 AM · #74
There is such a comfort in knowing that strangers care about me... Actually, not strangers... it's just perfect. Photographers, people with the same "crazy" mind or at least simliar to mine.

Do you ever look at the world without constantly thinking - "hey, that would be a great shot"... My friends think I am retarded, I always see photos all around me.
 08/03/2006 12:02:10 PM · #75
Originally posted by timmi:
Do you ever look at the world without constantly thinking - "hey, that would be a great shot"... My friends think I am retarded, I always see photos all around me.


Timmi, that's exactly the kind of connection we have here.

It reminds me of when I used to be a rockclimber. Everywhere I went hiking, I saw cliffs and thought "hmmm ..."
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