Dating....oh so frustrating......

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11/14/2005 09:07:22 PM · #51

Originally posted by JPR:

Can all you folks that met your matches on match.com and the like please post the original letters you sent or had sent to you. Come on, I know you still have them sitting around! It would be great to use them as reference if I ever decide to go the online dating route. :)

Our original correspondences were lost during a computer crash:(

However, my initial response to my husband's ad was something like this:
"Are you my Birthday present?" (Sent the day after my birthday).
"I just wanted you to know that your profile prompted me to sign up for this service, so that I could meet you". I was absolutely broke, yet managed to scrounge up (charge) the membership fee, just so I could contact the person with that great smile. I went on to explain that I was skeptical about internet dating, but that there was something about his profile that really struck me. Just writing this brings back a flood of nervous and anxious memories. Although we hit it off immediately, it took me a loooonnng time to trust that he was for real. I just had a hard time believing that such an awesome guy could be for legitimate, and so easy to find.

Good luck to all of you internet daters. Just be 100% honest; and don't settle for anything less than you deserve!

Jutilda

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11/14/2005 11:49:14 PM · #52

I have had two friends who met their mates online. I mean, look at what good relationships we have cultivated here at DPC??? Why not meet a future partner?

I'd say be as honest as possible in your introduction. Just be you.

CalliopeKel

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11/14/2005 11:55:43 PM · #53

Nice Thread.

Someone could just start a singles list thread with a link to your profile. Or maybe put a single/married/gay/looking/etc. remark in your profile. LOL

What better place to hook up than on dpc? Atleast you would have SOMETHING in common with them right off the bat, and lets face it, if you are both camera/photoshop freaks, thats a good common grounder.

edit- Yes be honest about your value system, political preferences, religion etc. Those things cannot be glossed over or ignored if you want a successful long term relationship.

Message edited by author 2005-11-14 23:59:36.

faidoi

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11/15/2005 12:10:59 AM · #54

Dating....oh so frustrating......

... I give up :)

longlivenyhc

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11/15/2005 12:13:54 AM · #55

yup, been single for a year now after a 5 year relationship. finding someone is pretty difficult these days. well finding someone thats worth spending time with is difficult atleast

ShaneBlake

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Sigma 30mm f/1.4 EX DC HSM for Nikon

11/15/2005 05:53:58 PM · #56

Originally posted by greatandsmall:

Originally posted by hsteg:
high school's where all the chicks are at.

I also saw a study that showed high school sweethearts to have the best long-term success rate of all relationships. So get 'em while you can. After you graduate you have an increased chance of being pegged a pervert;)

i snagged me a woman in high school. actually, i met her in the youth group at church. we dated 5 years and celebrate 10 years of marriage next month...

rox_rox

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11/15/2005 06:02:40 PM · #57

Originally posted by kudzu:

i snagged me a woman in high school. actually, i met her in the youth group at church. we dated 5 years and celebrate 10 years of marriage next month...

Congratulations Shane! I love stories like that.

SJCarter

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11/15/2005 06:14:02 PM · #58

As I just posted in another thread (okay, yes, that opens up another WHOLE can of worms - and for that I apologize! - please continue uninterrupted!), I actually haven't been on a date in over 5 years now...

I think I'm just realizing how sad that is... LOL So don't feel bad! Things could be worse! ;-)

basssman7

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11/15/2005 06:44:19 PM · #59

I was married at 23 & separated at 28. Did not date for 1.5 years, then a 5 year relationship. This was followed by another year off, then some shorter ones.

I am concerned that at 39 my relationships are getting shorter, not longer! LOL I have been out of serious stuff now for 2 years. It is very tough to meet people. I have been trying to internet thing, however I am finding that all the ladies on there either want a guy that is a "bad boy" type with all the muscles, or a guy with a six figure income. I have to large of a figure for the first type, and not nearly enough figures for the second type!

Oh well, some day I will meet her, or I will at least die with my eyes open.

Good luck to all the singles out there looking. Keep the faith.

Ernie :)

Canon EF 70-200mm f/2.8L IS USM

11/17/2005 09:31:11 AM · #60

Originally posted by gayle43103:

Wondering...anyone else have this problem and if so, have you fixed it? If so, please tell me!!!!

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hahaha yea I've had this problem. Had a screamer the other night and not only was she loud but I was cut bruised and almost bleeding by the end of the night. Needless to say I no screen people better by telling them I don't put out on the first date. :D

Edit to add: Do you really care that your single??? I've been single now for 5 yrs and don't really care. I'm 32 (according to my profile) and have lived the lives of 10 old men. I've seen a lot more then most will ever imagine and done things most people will only see in a movie and I'm satisfied that if I die tomorrow I can safely say "I have lived life".

Message edited by author 2005-11-17 09:50:01.

CalliopeKel

Canon EOS-5D

11/17/2005 12:06:11 PM · #61

We girls don't mind if guys are broke & bald, if you don't mind us having a few extra pounds on us...LOL

See....unless your a waif, you aren't real marketable. I know men who would rather date bags of bones with a horrible ugly face (missing teeth even) than date an overweight woman with alot in her favor (independent, clean, having teeth and an actual personality). Discrimination is everywhere.

alfresco

Nikon D700

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11/17/2005 12:16:33 PM · #62

Originally posted by CalliopeKel:

I find teeth and personality far more desirable than the ability to be blown away by a slight breeze. I'm funny that way.

sabphoto

Samsung Galaxy S8/S8+

11/17/2005 12:26:22 PM · #63

Don't look is usually the best bet. I met my wife online in believe it or not Yahoo Hearts. (I tease her and say she stole my heart playing hearts) I was hosting one of the tables and her and a friend joined in, we joked and talked the entire game then ended up setting up a private room of our own and stayed on and chatted most of the night and every night after that. We would end up staying up till like 2 in the morning and I would rush home at night to sign back on. We talked for almost 4 months before I ever even saw a pic of her and 8 months before we met. (She's in another state) After 3 years we got married (last year) but we still have to live in different states, thanks to the military. I do get to go home every weekend but it gets lonely without her and her daughter around. A lot of people ask "how could you just meet someone online and start dating?" I remind them of all the stories of the older generations meeting people via pen pals and ending up married...no difference in my mind.

If the online way doesn't work you may want to do a couple DPC get togethers...seemed to work for at least two of our members ( profile and profile)

Good luck, everyone deserves someone to love and be loved by.

Message edited by author 2005-11-17 12:32:04.

phatphoto

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11/17/2005 12:30:44 PM · #64

Originally posted by CalliopeKel:

See....unless your a waif, you aren't real marketable. I know men who would rather date bags of bones with a horrible ugly face (missing teeth even) than date an overweight woman with alot in her favor (independent, clean, having teeth and an actual personality). Discrimination is everywhere.

I hear ya siter! :) Dating IS extremely difficult with barriers like you've mentioned...and I think it'll be the same "picky" guys who'll wonder later on why he's suddenly old and alone. Miss out on the good ones. Of course, there has to be some physical attraction, but I'm finding that now the ones I tend to fall for--and fall for hard--are the ones who've got a really funny sense of humor and a great personality that just makes them 10x more attractive than the picture-perfect model types.

Good luck to all the singles who are looking; there are some good ones out there that's worth finding...and keeping.

Sony 24-70mm F4 Vario-Tessar T* FE OSS

11/18/2005 07:41:46 AM · #65

Originally posted by CalliopeKel:

We girls don't mind if guys are broke & bald, if you don't mind us having a few extra pounds on us...LOL

And please don't take this the wrong way...

a few extra pounds??? Chances are your fat and just trying to kid yourself.

Originally posted by CalliopeKel:

...overweight woman with alot in her favor (independent, clean, having teeth and an actual personality).

And please don't take this the wrong way...

Not speaking for me personally but the myth is if you're overweight then chances are you stink cuz you must smell cuz your a pig and eat to much (as explained to me by a 10yr old boy).

As for "discrimination" you better bet your a$$ it is. Everybody wants the "Mrs. Clever" wife. One that doesn't talk back, does what she's told (yes I said told) cooks, cleans, irons, has dinner ready on time etc.

Most people are not truely happy with their loved one it's the one the settled for and usually the ones that marry the "hot chick" or the "hot guy" usually end in divorce (see other thread about gays).

Honestly, I'd never consider dating someone of "big boned" or "heavy" cuz its not my style/taste. Fine for some just not for me. But again what do I know... I'm the east end of a dog headed west.

edit to add: big women do have some advantages tho. Heat in the winter and shade in the summer. j/k

Message edited by author 2005-11-18 13:02:50.

zxaar

11/18/2005 07:47:06 AM · #66

Girls do mind, i saw full one hour program on discovery chanel on human bevaviour that concluded this.

Originally posted by CalliopeKel:

Bear_Music

Samsung Galaxy S24 Ultra

11/18/2005 07:51:22 AM · #67

Originally posted by notonline:

As for "discrimination" you better bet your a$$ it is. Everybody wants the "Mrs. Clever" wife. One that doesn't take back, does what she's told (yes I said told) cooks, cleans, irons, has dinner ready on time etc.

Speak for yourself. I like it when people "talk back" to me (I assume that's what you meant), I don't habitually give orders to my significant other (when I have one, which I do not currently), I do the cooking, I do my own ironing. I do like help with the cleaning (I suck at that basically) but it's not a sexism issue.

Frankly, I find your entire post pretty distasteful, but maybe that's just me...

Robt.

Canon EF 70-200mm f/2.8L IS USM

11/18/2005 07:55:02 AM · #68

Originally posted by bear_music:

Originally posted by notonline:
As for "discrimination" you better bet your a$$ it is. Everybody wants the "Mrs. Clever" wife. One that doesn't take back, does what she's told (yes I said told) cooks, cleans, irons, has dinner ready on time etc.

Speak for yourself. I like it when people "talk back" to me (I assume that's what you meant), I don't habitually give orders to my significant other (when I have one, which I do not currently), I do the cooking, I do my own ironing. I do like help with the cleaning (I suck at that basically) but it's not a sexism issue.

Frankly, I find your entire post pretty distasteful, but maybe that's just me...

Robt.

Your intitled to your opinion bear I did not refer to myself in the statement but society in general and that was a fact.

CalliopeKel

Canon EOS-5D

11/18/2005 10:52:38 AM · #69

Originally posted by zxaar:

Girls do mind, i saw full one hour program on discovery chanel on human bevaviour that concluded this.

Then how do you account for so many fat/bald/broke men being married? Sure...17 year old girls aren't looking or willing to 'settle' for less than perfect, but there are just as many ' equally unattractive ' women out there that are out of the running for the Brad Pitts of the world.

I think its safe to say Women want men (and will consider men) who they connect with first and foremost. Since I am a woman and I know alot of them, sex appeal, humor, confidence and how they make her feel are more the determining factors when it comes to selecting a partner. Especially when your older than 30.

edit- I was really shocked to see this threads progress when I logged on today. I'm not going to reply to the obvious sophmoric comments made, if I want a conversation like that I would just go down to the local jr. high school. Sheesh.

Message edited by author 2005-11-18 10:58:13.

Ombra_foto

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11/18/2005 11:13:42 AM · #70

Originally posted by CalliopeKel:

I was really shocked to see this threads progress when I logged on today. I'm not going to reply to the obvious sophmoric comments made, if I want a conversation like that I would just go down to the local jr. high school. Sheesh.

Are you sure jr high? I was thinking lower...

Jacko

Canon EF 17-40mm f/4.0L USM

11/18/2005 12:26:26 PM · #71

At least you won't have to go out with me. Been with my wife for 12 years now.

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11/18/2005 12:35:06 PM · #72

Originally posted by notonline:

Your intitled to your opinion bear I did not refer to myself in the statement but society in general and that was a fact.

I would be interested in reading scientific documentation on this fact. Please share any that you know of.

11/18/2005 01:05:29 PM · #73

Originally posted by mk:

Originally posted by notonline:
As for "discrimination" you better bet your a$$ it is. Everybody wants the "Mrs. Clever" wife. One that doesn't take back, does what she's told (yes I said told) cooks, cleans, irons, has dinner ready on time etc.

Originally posted by notonline:
Your intitled to your opinion bear I did not refer to myself in the statement but society in general and that was a fact.

I would be interested in reading scientific documentation on this fact. Please share any that you know of.

If I post it will it be edited??? Not to mention (see below)
Originally posted by zxaar:
Girls do mind, i saw full one hour program on discovery chanel on human bevaviour that concluded this.

For more information tune into 97.7fm each morning around 7am and hear women talking about guys and visa versa.