We park your cars, we serve your food

Nikon AF Micro-Nikkor 60mm f2.8D

11/13/2005 08:27:56 PM · #1

We take your pictures. Don't fuck with us...

As a favor to a friend I go to a concerto she's helped put together. This is a favor, not a job. Apparently a local kid who'd done really well in the classical music world has come home to see friends and family and to finally play a concerto in his backyard instead of on the east coast or in Europe. This man snubs me by refusing to shake my hand after the show and rudely ignores me.

The question is do I give me friend a CD of the pictures with my copyright on the lower left hand of each and lie in wait with my attorney on the speed dial?

Am I being too sensitive about this? What would you do?

David Ey

Nikon D80

11/13/2005 09:44:13 PM · #2

never mind

wewillexplore

Canon EOS-1D Mark II

Canon EF 70-200mm f/2.8L IS USM

11/13/2005 09:47:13 PM · #3

Your friend didn't snub you, however. You'd do your friend a disservice for all the friend's work ...

M

Nikon D200

Nikon AF-S DX NIKKOR 18-200mm f/3.5-5.6G ED VR II

11/13/2005 09:55:42 PM · #4

I'm sorry your enjoyment of the event was marred by rudeness. With that said, by all means give the CD to your friend and explain that the shots are for her personal use only.

If the performer subsequently wishes to use any of the shots, try not to make a business decision based on emotion.

RayEthier

Canon EOS-5D Mark II

Canon EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6 USM

11/13/2005 09:57:13 PM · #5

Your best bet is to tell your friend exactly how you feel, and then impress upon her that nothing in life is free. If they like and want the photos, I am certain they will gladly pay for them... If not, tough.

The issue at hand would seem to be that your friend failed to impress upon these folks what you were doing and why.

Ray

Beagleboy

Canon EOS-30D

Tokina AF 12-24mm f/4.0 AT-X Pro DX

11/13/2005 10:16:34 PM · #6

For your friend, I would give her a CD of the images with the express understanding that they are for her use only.

If the photos are to be used for commercial use, I would watermark the images with your name and the copyright symbol right in the middle of every image. If they want to use the pics, they have to pay you a uasge fee for them to receive a clean image.

Message edited by author 2005-11-13 22:21:56.

robs

Canon EOS R6 Mk II

Canon EF 24-105mm f/4.0L IS

11/14/2005 12:25:27 PM · #7

I don't understand your friends stake in the deal, so it's hard to answer. Why does she want the pictures (she asked you to go and take them, so there must be a reason)? Why does she want them on CD?

If just for her memories, I would print a few up (8x10 or something), matt them and sign them - maybe print a few smaller also e.t.c. If for her personal web-site then give her some web-ready files with the normal small copyright on the corner.

In the end there is no point upsetting your friend for what some third-party did to you. If the artist wants them for publicity then that is a different deal and treat it as a business deal.

Riponlady

Panasonic Lumix DMC-FZ35

Tamron AF 28-300mm f/3.5-6.3 XR Di LD Aspherical IF for Canon

11/14/2005 12:39:14 PM · #8

You really do have problems with "friends" don't you???!!!
Didn't you post recently about someone wanting pics after ignoring you for months??

OH dear!!
P

Canon EF 24-105mm f/4.0L IS

11/14/2005 06:36:05 PM · #9

Yes, I did post that. Problem is that I actually like to help people and let them take advantge of me. Hell, I encourage them to take advantage of me.

Frankly, I'm so thrilled that some people recognize me as a photographer that I fall prey to their compliments.

As for that last "friend", I never emailed her back after she asked if I could PhotoShop a fur coat on her for one of her official photos. Crap, if she couldn't make it to my opening I'm not going to do anything for her.

Geez, bitter just suits me, now doesn't it? :)

Art Roflmao

Canon EOS-6D Mark II

11/14/2005 07:18:46 PM · #10

Well I think you're an awesome photographer, mikasi! The best! As it so happens, I need a top notch photog to shoot my nephew's birthday party in a few weeks and I don't have any money, but I will make eye contact with you. ;-)

You just need to learn to say no and whatever you do for people, do it for the right reasons and look on the positive side of these situations. ...whatever that is, is up to you. :) Have fun.

Canon EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6

11/14/2005 09:16:36 PM · #11

Well there was a positive side - they served reception chow afterwards. And a love of free food goes back to my days as a college student who went to every art opening just so I didn't have to have Ramen yet again.

Originally posted by kpriest:

KaDi

Canon EOS-300D Rebel

11/14/2005 09:22:57 PM · #12

Many musicians will not offer their hand. There is a great deal of superstition about that...violinists, for example, do not want their fingers crushed. (And many of us do not wish to incur cold or flu viruses...) What makes you think this was a matter of impoliteness to you and not something else?