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06/13/2006 01:43:23 AM · #1 |
| I don't really know what to say for an explanation, but someone please tell me that when I'm in the middle of things that are other people's business, if I forget to do something one of them wanted, it's not the end of the world. I really need to hear that right now. |
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06/13/2006 01:45:29 AM · #2 |
It's not the end of the world. :) So what happened?
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06/13/2006 01:45:35 AM · #3 |
"When you're in the middle of other peoples' business, it's NOT the end of the world if you forget to do something one of them wanted." Trust me, it's not. Been there, done that, life goes on :-)
R.
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06/13/2006 01:46:58 AM · #4 |
Originally posted by klstover:
I don't really know what to say for an explanation, but someone please tell me that when I'm in the middle of things that are other people's business, if I forget to do something one of them wanted, it's not the end of the world. I really need to hear that right now. |
Yeah...quit worrying about things you can't control....if you truly forgot something, then just say, "I forgot". It's not the end of the world, by any means. Honesty is always best. Now, go to bed and get some sleep. (turn off that computer in your head!) Works for me!
Becky
Message edited by author 2006-06-13 01:48:32. |
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06/13/2006 01:50:09 AM · #5 |
Thanks all.
I guess the easy way of explaining, now that I've calmed a bit, is:
mom wanted sister to learn that she needs to come home by midnight
mom locks door
mom wants me not to be awake to let her in (asleep or at least in my room)
me forgets that I should not be up with light on
sister knocks on window and i have to let her in (because there's a couch and pillow and blanket in the garage but it's kind of cold and I can't stand there while my sister is outside, even though I do agree with my mom) |
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06/13/2006 01:53:22 AM · #6 |
Originally posted by klstover:
Thanks all.
I guess the easy way of explaining, now that I've calmed a bit, is:
mom wanted sister to learn that she needs to come home by midnight
mom locks door
mom wants me not to be awake to let her in (asleep or at least in my room)
me forgets that I should not be up with light on
sister knocks on window and i have to let her in (because there's a couch and pillow and blanket in the garage but it's kind of cold and I can't stand there while my sister is outside, even though I do agree with my mom) |
Hell... I totally do NOT agree with mom. I think locking your kids out when they miss curfew is a sure way to antagonize them, and it will just lead to worse problems. Back when I had the teenage-daughter-from-hell, we were just grateful she DID come home; if we'd locked her out she would have disappeared for days...
R.
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06/13/2006 01:55:48 AM · #7 |
| Well, I guess families are different. |
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06/13/2006 01:58:38 AM · #8 |
Originally posted by klstover:
Well, I guess families are different. |
I guess :-) In any event, soldier on! It's not the end of the world...
R.
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06/13/2006 02:00:56 AM · #9 |
Yes indeed. :-)
Thanks everyone. |
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06/13/2006 02:01:50 AM · #10 |
Whoa! You sound like you have that mother from hell. I have two grown children and I agree with Bear. Locking your child out so she will learn to come in by curfew is NOT the way. And when did it become law that YOU have to be your sister's keeper?? I find that just poor parenting. AND the ''pillow and blanket'' comment has me even more scared. I wonder how your mom would feel if she DIDN'T come home at all...
I don't know what this world is coming to, but I think your sister needs to be more responsible and come in when she's supposed to and not leave the burden on you.
My 2¢ for what it's worth.
I hope you make it thru your teen years. (Assuming here, have NO idea how old you are, but you definitely are more mature than your mom)
Message edited by author 2006-06-13 02:05:00. |
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06/13/2006 02:04:24 AM · #11 |
somewhere along the line, I started to learn about kharma and the flow of energy... from there I really started believing that everything happens for a reason, even if it's not the one you want
what happens happens and there's use regretting the past, except to remember how not to repeat the bad; you can only control your actions now and in the future, so concentrate on that and keep repeating it in your head, say it out loud or write it down a few times if you have to.
Life happens, it's how you deal with it that counts. |
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06/13/2006 02:06:31 AM · #12 |
Hah, maybe I shouldn't have actually explained to begin with, 'cause it's hard to condense everything into simple words. My mom's not perfect, but she's really great. She tries so hard to be the best mom she can. My sister isn't the typical rebellious teenager, just that she has a couple issues she needs to realize she should listen to my mom about.
I don't get it really, if my sister is safe in the garage, sleeping on a couch... that's not going to kill her. It will show her that my mom means business, which is something she hasn't really understood yet.
Nobody's really putting a burden on me - I think I'm putting most of it on myself. I have this wonderful ability to feel way guilty about stuff I shouldn't.
And I'm 23, but thanks for the wishes, hehe. |
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06/13/2006 02:06:33 AM · #13 |
(also guys, "bagging" on her mother probably doesn't make her feel any better)
you'd have to be in that situation and know the individual before making judgements... I, personally, (and my mother) would have no qualms (spelling?) about locking my younger sibling out
NOT Condoning or condemning |
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06/13/2006 02:07:34 AM · #14 |
Originally posted by amandalore:
what happens happens and there's use regretting the past, except to remember how not to repeat the bad |
I do need to incorporate this more into my mindset than it currently is. |
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06/13/2006 02:08:09 AM · #15 |
Originally posted by amandalore:
(also guys, "bagging" on her mother probably doesn't make her feel any better)
you'd have to be in that situation and know the individual before making judgements... I, personally, (and my mother) would have no qualms (spelling?) about locking my younger sibling out
NOT Condoning or condemning |
Hee, exactly. Thank you. :-)
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I feel better and am going to try to go to bed. I respectfully request that since the purpose of this thread is fulfilled, any remaining locking-out comments be done elsewhere. :-)
Message edited by author 2006-06-13 02:10:59. |
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06/13/2006 02:11:05 AM · #16 |
no prob, I love dishing out "words of wisdom"...
now, if I could only learn how to use them, lol hahahahaha!!! famous last words |
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06/13/2006 03:05:02 AM · #17 |
Originally posted by klstover:
I respectfully request that since the purpose of this thread is fulfilled, any remaining locking-out comments be done elsewhere. :-) |
What? Before I get to pipe in?? I think not.
Here is what I would do (not being you, your sister or your mother- just being me, myself)... I would lock your sister, your mother and you out of the house and I would eat all your snack food. Then I would lock this thread and sleep in my own garage. But that's just me. I've already forgotten what the original issue was. :P |
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06/13/2006 04:58:46 AM · #18 |
| I am with Art .. I love eating other peoples snack food :) |
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06/13/2006 12:14:50 PM · #19 |
None of us have any idea what the reasons were that the mother wanted to take this action. It's her right as the mother of her own children.
I've been in situations where locking the sister/daughter out has been a very good thing.
No, she didn't come home for days. But the people that did come the next evening with baseball bats and guns demanding the money she owed them got their money and went on their way peacefully instead of trashing the house and beating us all (I was 13 at the time and my little sister was 11) up...
My sister is terrible for escalating situations like these.
If she had followed the rules in the first place, the situation wouldn't have occured.
Tell your sister to listen to her mother. And don't let her in next time.
Antagonization is one thing. Having a backbone is another. |
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