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11/21/2005 07:46:09 AM · #101 |
Originally posted by Rae-Ann:
Well, I was gonna say perhaps geography has something to do with it....I live in the epicentre of a large city, and am in my 30's. Most the men I know are looking for strong intelligent independant women. June wouldn't do for these guys!
But I noticed that notonline is in my city and in my age range... I guess we hang in different circles
Now that said, I am a strong independant intelligent woman, and I am not dating right now...hmmm....So much for that theory! |
I didn't say I wanted the june cleaver type person. I did say I didn't want an overweight person. And as for people in the city?
If a guy see's 2 women walking down the street one's big and the other is tall and thin who do you think is gonna get looked at???
My theory on women is something like this:
Its like eating steak, nice to eat once in a while but not every day.
But on that note I don't want the cow either.
Yea I already know I'm a very picky person but thats because I want what I want and would rather be single and me then be somewhere or with someone I don't.
Edit: Rae-Ann you should really come to the next outing to see who people really are and besides there a lot of fun.
Message edited by author 2005-11-21 07:47:33.
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11/21/2005 08:05:09 AM · #102 |
Wow....I would have never thought that a thread that I started about being frustrated about dating would turn into this. I'd have to say that I was afraid that it would turn into a discussion on fat vs thin.
I am a heavy woman but I have brains, humor, intelligence and most of that is looked past because of what is on the outside. I'm looked upon as being stupid and lazy and neither are true. I hold a very physically and mentally demanding job that keeps me very busy and when I'm not at work, I'm usually out with my camera.
Women are stereotyped. If you are thin and beautiful you are worthy, if you aren't, then you are looked past. And its a sad thing because men are missing out on the best part of a woman. Her. Her being, her intelligence, her caring and loving heart.
But I can say all this and most will go in one ear and out the other. But the next time you see that those 2 women who are opposites in their looks, say hello anyway. Don't be the jerk that ignores one and not the other. Be a real man, a gentleman.
take care...
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11/21/2005 08:22:00 AM · #103 |
There ARE men who love a woman for her and not for size or looks. Ditto for women about men. Sure looks are great but it's like Laurie said...that's the cake :) Remember looks fade over the years.
My mother always told me, Angel, you watch how a man treats his mother and that's how he will treat you. Works for me.
You usually find that special person when you're living life and not looking. |
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11/21/2005 08:27:47 AM · #104 |
[quote=notonline] I didn't say I wanted the june cleaver type person. I did say I didn't want an overweight person. And as for people in the city?
If a guy see's 2 women walking down the street one's big and the other is tall and thin who do you think is gonna get looked at???
My theory on women is something like this:
Its like eating steak, nice to eat once in a while but not every day.
But on that note I don't want the cow either.
Yea I already know I'm a very picky person but thats because I want what I want and would rather be single and me then be somewhere or with someone I don't.
What would you do if you married the most beautiful girl with the perfect body and one day she was in a terrible auto accident. Left with scars all over her face or body or burned..or left in a wheelchair ?
Would you still love her or walk away ? What kind of love is it that's based on looks and not the heart and core of a person ?
Better yet...what if that accident happened to you ? Shouldn't she love you for you ?
Like "they" say : You marry a man with a 6 pack and later it turns into a keg. One day you will be old and wrinkled. That person inside will be what's left. Ditto for your mate.
Message edited by author 2005-11-21 08:29:51. |
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11/21/2005 08:37:53 AM · #105 |
Just checking back in...is she married yet?
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11/21/2005 08:38:04 AM · #106 |
| For the record....I've always had the total hots for Roseanne and I live with my mother |
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11/21/2005 09:57:22 AM · #107 |
Roseannes Parenting style is very realistic. I have caught myself behaving just like her from time to time. Yelling at the kids etc. I think her show was great. I'm not fond of her off stage persona though. Her being a little vulnerable and sweet on the show helped my opinion of her alot.
I don't guess anyone got a look at how big Dan Conner is though?
Double Damn Standard huh? |
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11/21/2005 09:58:37 AM · #108 |
Originally posted by Shiiizzzam:
What would you do if you married the most beautiful girl with the perfect body and one day she was in a terrible auto accident. Left with scars all over her face or body or burned..or left in a wheelchair ?
Would you still love her or walk away ? What kind of love is it that's based on looks and not the heart and core of a person ?
Better yet...what if that accident happened to you ? Shouldn't she love you for you ? |
I can handle scars and burns as I have a few and canes don't bother me but a wheelchair??? Sorry I'd probably be gone and IF it was the other way around and I was in that position of being in a wheelchair or like that girl that was brain dead, I already have a plan in place for stuff like that. It will mean termination but thats my choice. Honestly, I wouldn't even be able to handle a retard child. Sounds mean but thats just something I just can't do. I can't change baby diapers either which is why I'd hire a maid (yes I've tried, only to find out I can't clean up puke either - talk about a double whamy that day). I can handle blood, guts, burns and most tihngs people call gross or nasty but some things I just can't do. Kinda like my spelling.
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11/21/2005 03:30:30 PM · #109 |
Originally posted by notonline:
I can handle scars and burns as I have a few and canes don't bother me but a wheelchair??? Sorry I'd probably be gone and IF it was the other way around and I was in that position of being in a wheelchair or like that girl that was brain dead, I already have a plan in place for stuff like that. It will mean termination but thats my choice. Honestly, I wouldn't even be able to handle a retard child. Sounds mean but thats just something I just can't do. I can't change baby diapers either which is why I'd hire a maid (yes I've tried, only to find out I can't clean up puke either - talk about a double whamy that day). I can handle blood, guts, burns and most tihngs people call gross or nasty but some things I just can't do. Kinda like my spelling. |
I suppose we will just have to agree to disagree...I admit looks are somewhat important, I am fit and not attracted to overweight guys. But the difference is, if I fell in love with someone and they met with some unfortunate accident, or weight gain, I would try to empower them to be the best they could. I would not throw away everything when life gets hard. Challenges build character which make people beautiful anyway.
As for the next Toronto gtg...count me in! |
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11/21/2005 05:01:44 PM · #110 |
Love these posts, all very humourous. Youth is such a short blessing so I say enjoy it well you can.
Grey hair, wrinkled skin, weight gain and other challenges of life far more difficult to deal with catch up with us ALL.
Superficical features like being discussed here are issues that fade with time.
My favourite example is Elizabeth Taylor the Movie Star. She was one of the most beautiful women of all time. A visit to Rochester, New York to the Kodak Gallery will reveal images of her at about 16 years old that stand the test of time and will easily displace virtually everyone of today's beauties.
As you know, she was married many times and was not successful at maintaining her relationships based upon many factors, including her extreme good looks.
Today, in her 70s, she is leading many charges for HIV, charity and public good. This kind of inner beauty has evolved as her outer beauty fades. By anyone's account, she is still amazing.
Only time could craft her to become the wonderful person that she is today.
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11/21/2005 05:54:43 PM · #111 |
Originally posted by notonline:
Originally posted by bear_music:
Originally posted by notonline:
As for "discrimination" you better bet your a$$ it is. Everybody wants the "Mrs. Clever" wife. One that doesn't take back, does what she's told (yes I said told) cooks, cleans, irons, has dinner ready on time etc. |
Speak for yourself. I like it when people "talk back" to me (I assume that's what you meant), I don't habitually give orders to my significant other (when I have one, which I do not currently), I do the cooking, I do my own ironing. I do like help with the cleaning (I suck at that basically) but it's not a sexism issue.
Frankly, I find your entire post pretty distasteful, but maybe that's just me...
Robt. |
Your intitled to your opinion bear I did not refer to myself in the statement but society in general and that was a fact. |
It is a fact that this is your opinion, but there is no proof of these absurd and slanderous claims. I am with bear, your whole post was distasteful.
EDIT to ADD: I was so enjoying this thread until this response, there's always someone.
I am also single 24 and never been married. Even from the time that I was starting to date until now the method has changed for many reasons. I think the internet can be a great place to meet people as long as you approach it with your safety in mind. Oh and I would totally support a DPC matching system lol... it could be quite interesting lol
Message edited by author 2005-11-21 17:58:26.
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11/22/2005 07:52:32 AM · #112 |
Originally posted by res0m50r:
It is a fact that this is your opinion, but there is no proof of these absurd and slanderous claims. I am with bear, your whole post was distasteful.
EDIT to ADD: I was so enjoying this thread until this response, there's always someone. |
So let me get this straight, you and bear have a problem with me for calling a spade a spade??? Because I said fat people get discriminated against??? That is a fact. A lot of people get discriminated for a lot of different reasons.
Everything else has been answered to so keep reading.
edit: ah yes I remember you now. I gave a negative review on your camera and you got pissy then. Man learn to let things go.
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11/22/2005 08:38:10 AM · #113 |
Boy, that's a long thread. how I missed it when it 1st came up....I'm not sure.
Anyway.....Gayle, don't sweat it. I'm 39, single, never married, no kids and letting you know there is someone out there for you..........if that's what you're really looking for. I have bought what I wanted, spent money on vacations, moved, etc etc without having to worry about anyone's opinion. True, the main downside is coming home to an empty house (don't know if you have kids). Sometimes it's nice and relaxing, other times it seems a bit lonely and you wish someone was there (I miss that sometimes).
I wonder if I'll feel the same when I'm 50-60 or 70.
You just have to decide what you REALLY want.
Remember please, being alone and being lonely are 2 TOTALLY different things.
P.S. I'm not even going to comment on the comments made from some ^^up there. Truth be told, I stopped reading about 1/2 way down.
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11/22/2005 09:10:04 AM · #114 |
Originally posted by MrEd:
Boy, that's a long thread. how I missed it when it 1st came up....I'm not sure.
Anyway.....Gayle, don't sweat it. I'm 39, single, never married, no kids and letting you know there is someone out there for you..........if that's what you're really looking for. I have bought what I wanted, spent money on vacations, moved, etc etc without having to worry about anyone's opinion. True, the main downside is coming home to an empty house (don't know if you have kids). Sometimes it's nice and relaxing, other times it seems a bit lonely and you wish someone was there (I miss that sometimes).
I wonder if I'll feel the same when I'm 50-60 or 70.
You just have to decide what you REALLY want.
Remember please, being alone and being lonely are 2 TOTALLY different things.
P.S. I'm not even going to comment on the comments made from some ^^up there. Truth be told, I stopped reading about 1/2 way down. |
never too late ... first child at 42 & second at 45 ... still thinking about a #3 |
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11/22/2005 10:14:22 AM · #115 |
Originally posted by ralphnev:
never too late ... first child at 42 & second at 45 ... still thinking about a #3 |
Never said it was. Congrats to you ralph.
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11/22/2005 10:30:24 AM · #116 |
I wanted to add once you find the nice normal guy/gal then you have to learn how to make a long term relationship WORK.
Try this
//www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi12_tour.html
Personally I think it is what should be taught instead of sex ed, required reading for anyone over 16. A lot fewer broken homes and kids growning up without the security of a family unit. (Yes, I am a child of divorced partents before the flames begin) |
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11/22/2005 03:12:16 PM · #117 |
Originally posted by notonline:
Originally posted by res0m50r:
It is a fact that this is your opinion, but there is no proof of these absurd and slanderous claims. I am with bear, your whole post was distasteful.
EDIT to ADD: I was so enjoying this thread until this response, there's always someone. |
So let me get this straight, you and bear have a problem with me for calling a spade a spade??? Because I said fat people get discriminated against??? That is a fact. A lot of people get discriminated for a lot of different reasons.
Everything else has been answered to so keep reading.
edit: ah yes I remember you now. I gave a negative review on your camera and you got pissy then. Man learn to let things go. |
1. I don't know what your refering to in regards to my camera, but I am sure you can find me a link.
2. You determine that I think your post was in bad taste because you were stating facts? I think your post was in bad taste because of the way you stated your opinion. I see no facts in your post and I would suspect you would have a very hard time finding any creditable sources for your slanderous comments.
3. I understand that we all have prejudices against physical attributes that do not fit our taste, but some of us still have respect for all walks of life and would stray away from the derogatory method you so eloquently spat from your mind.
Bottom line I could have said the same thing you said and done so with out offending people in the lifestyle you talk about. |
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11/22/2005 03:50:20 PM · #118 |
Originally posted by gayle43103:
Oh my goodness....its so frustrating to find and nice, hardworking, decent guy.
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I'm nice! I'm hardly working! I'm decadent!
Originally posted by gayle43103:
whoa buddy I have gone out with some real freaks. |
Um, have we met...?
Nordlys, 37yo single social recluse. Sometimes I wish my social phobia had an ass so I could kick it. |
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11/22/2005 04:05:13 PM · #119 |
To Nordlys and MrEd...either of you live near Ohio?? That's where I am right now.
Thank you for making my night of venting about dating so enlightening and humorous. I definitely feel as if I can now find that guy I really want.
Still....anymore takers??
take care
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