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07/04/2005 04:22:53 AM · #26 |
Originally posted by Pine Red:
[snip] If he has no friends, sits in his room all day and plays with guns...then maybe. |
I would hope a lot more than maybe.
I do agree with you that repression is a lot worse than expression, but I think that, especially dealing with a child/teenager, that those around them that care about them and are responsible for them should be aware of, care about, and respond to what they are expressing in whatever form. Something that I feel an awful lot of parents don't seem to be doing these days, and shows.
Lisa, it sounds like he is a great kid, and you're a great parent and doing the right things. Continue to encourage, and provide guidance and motivation :-) It is obvious that you care, and are on top of the situation and will take action should it be warranted.
I can definitely see the concern over it, and I would want to talk about it and make sure I knew where it was coming from with the boy, and maybe get some feedback from my peers and friends, which it seems is what you are doing.
As far as the original question, I don't know really anything about drawing, but I would agree with pretty much what everybody else said, and I know it is sure a whole heck of a lot better than what I could do !!!
:-)
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07/04/2005 04:27:33 AM · #27 |
thanks taterbug! Trust me when i say he is well watched and cared for.
I really feel like some people here think i am doing a bad job as a mum and that cuts deep.
The main reason i put his picture on here is because he sees me getting comments on my pics and he loves recieving the same. So i thank you all that did comment, he and i appreciate it deeply.
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07/04/2005 04:37:31 AM · #28 |
Originally posted by lentil:
I really feel like some people here think i am doing a bad job as a mum and that cuts deep. |
I didn't necessarily hear that in any of the posts - I agree with tater & others who think you are doing a fine job!
I would imagine there are drawing sites where you could get comments or critiques that are more useful.
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07/04/2005 04:48:04 AM · #29 |
| Just by sharing the picture with us shows us how much you care and how proud you are of your son. : ) |
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07/04/2005 04:55:59 AM · #30 |
thanks ken and datcat. I am very proud of him. I try really hard to be a good mum, a good friend, confidant etc. My parents were not like that with me at all and i really feel it is so important. Yeah, it isnt the nicest of pictures, the content isnt great but hey, at least he felt comfortable enough to show me and not hide it. That is a big plus in my book
Message edited by author 2005-07-04 05:11:15.
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07/04/2005 05:02:33 AM · #31 |
at least he felt comfortable enough to show me and not hide it. That is a big plus in my book
Exactly! |
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07/04/2005 05:05:10 AM · #32 |
| Hey I was drawing skulls and daggers at that age, but I used to listen to classical music. True. |
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07/04/2005 05:24:32 AM · #33 |
Robert said the only classical type song he likes is Spanish caravan by the doors. He expresses himself through art and song writing and i have to say i am really impressed with his songwriting. Watch for him in the future :)
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07/06/2005 03:47:58 AM · #34 |
| lentil, I am sure everyone thought I was not raising my 14 yr old correctly either, because I let him listen to rap and at one time he wore all black and showed alot of interest in skulls and medeval swords and stuff. He did alot of weird drawings too. The thing is, I remembered being a teen and the fanciful stuff we all went through ( would have loved to have super powers like bewitched ) I always made sure I kept communication open with my kids, insisted on truth between us, and tried to always know who their friends were and what was going on in their life. At 14 he got alittle rebellous and tried to spread his wings, but I held him in check and when he got in trouble he actually told me the truth. My son is 21 now, he has amazed everyone because despite all the rap and what have you that he was exposed to, he's never done drugs, he took one taste of beer and doesn't drink, he doesn't use profanity,and he holds done two jobs, one of which he is the boss because he sells body jewelry even though he doesn\'t have any piercings. He is also the most goodhearted person and according to several of his peers "he's cool" .My son has a unique outlook on most subjects and I've never heard of anyone that didn't like him. The biggest compliment people give me is when they tell me I've done a good job raising my kids, even though I was critized by the same people when they was younger. My point is , we can't hide this ugly world away from them forever because it is always in their face where ever they go, tempting them. All we can do is keep communications open, guide them , try to set a good example and if I have one piece of advice it's "Stop yelling at them-it's useless-and it shoves them furhter away,TALK to them ,really LISTEN to them and know when to shut up and let them make some of their own mistakes.My daughter says those are the ones she learned from the most. By the way , I let my daughter paint her bedroom wall black when she was a teenager making her the envy of all her friends, she's 28 now and has gone to ministry school and is the wonderful mother to my grand daughter, what was I thinking, LOL. I believe if my son had drawn the picture, I would discourage the use of the finger, while at the same time giving him lots of encouragement to keep drawing. You could tell him you'd love to show his drawings at your work ( or wherever) but ask could he draw you something less offensive to people. That is what I mean by guidance and by you as his parent being a good example. It's a constant balancing act. I think you guys will be just fine. |
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07/06/2005 04:02:37 AM · #35 |
Originally posted by pixieland:
...I think you guys will be just fine. |
Good post, pixieland. I think you are right and communication is the most important thing.
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07/06/2005 04:37:54 AM · #36 |
thanks pixieland. that was a good read :)
He literally has drawn hundreds of pictures and this is the only one with profanity. I only showed this one cause it was the latest.
He usually draws manga.
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07/06/2005 04:43:13 AM · #37 |
Lisa, i have a 14 year old daughter, and if thats the worse he does, your laughin, ( as in the finger ).... gee, life is so different to us at that age, and we need to be a little more compassionate to 'their' era... they can't live in our era, we have to live in thiers, and i think unless he is telling everyone that he hates them and doesn't talk to the family, and wears black cloaks and eyeliner ( pixeland, not directed to your son at all, it's a nother whole sad story i know ) , he will be fine, he is just growing up, they don't see the finger statement like we do, it 's no big deal to that age, ( i didnt think so at that age either ) so lets let our teens be teens and not expect them to be adults all of a sudden...
as far as the drawing goes
TELL HIM HE ROC'S...!!!!!!!
it's a beauty....
my daughter draws all the time too, and i think it's a agreat outlet, i never care what she draws, i alway s praise her though.......
Message edited by author 2005-07-06 04:46:04.
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07/06/2005 05:09:59 AM · #38 |
thanks kelly. He was keen to see what people thought of the pic, cause like i said he wanted some comments (from other people than family) We are very family orientated and he is the first one to want and see his 3 yr old cousin and spend time with her reading and playing. I dont know many teenage boys that would want to do that. He loves his family very much and really cares what happens to them. So i have no problem with what he draws, and if it comes to that he is only drawing that and being dark and hating everyone then i will do something about it. Right now i am giving him creative freedom
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07/06/2005 05:30:19 AM · #39 |
good on ya lis.. i have no doubts about the young man he is with a mum like you....you can just tell your a great person with how you come across on here...
i can't wait to meet you and them....
and serioulsy with his drawing his is great in my eyes.... :):):)
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07/06/2005 06:43:33 AM · #40 |
Well, I'd have to agree with TooCool. I don't that's an appropriate thing for 14 year olds to be drawing . . . that's not what this thread is supposed to be about. If your son is interested in drawing, check out this web site //www.wetcanvas.com . You'll be able get all the art help you need from this site.
Good luck with your son, and tell him to draw everyday. That's the only way to get better. Tell him to start with pencil. Learn to shade and show good contrast with the monotone media. From there, he can carry what he learns over to color. |
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