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 03/28/2005 03:59:41 PM · #26
Originally posted by GoldBerry:
So running like stink seems to be the general consensus. LOL
I think if the fiance found out she'd do a little casterating of her own.


i'd look back to what sonja said... right now, my wife and i have three other friends going through very, very ugly divorces, and all of them have children. two of these situations involve infidelity. lots of people, lots of children, all being affected just because people who were not ready for commitment went on and got married.

normally, i don't promote sticking my nose in other people's business, but to me, this is the type of situation where there will be ultimately no good end, at least until one or more of the parties grows up.
 03/28/2005 04:19:29 PM · #27
Disclaimer: The terms âyou and yoursâ are used loosely and does not mean you in the first person.

Sounds to me like a friend of yours made their feelings known while under the influence of alcohol. Which is not a good way to find out someone is attracted to you. If you go through with the sexual advancement you and that person will always wonder if that first feeling toward each other was more alcohol influenced or emotional feelings. And at the same time having this person engaged to another at the time of the occurrence should show you how that person is willing to react while in a relationship. To me the person showed no control and if willing to do this to one person then they would have no problem doing it to you in the future.
As far as he/she making a big scene after you declined the sexual advance you should remain quit. Step aside and let he/she do the talking. By trying to defend yourself some will take that as an admission of guilt. Iâm reminded of the old sayings, âloose lips, sinks shipsâ and âthe first to speak loosesâ. So let him/her do the talking [making the scene] and they will eventually show everyone what actually happened.
And thirdly, related to your statement, âWhat if you don't know either all THAT well? You mostly have mutual friends but could avoid the couple for the rest of your life if you really wanted to? Lol I say, stay away, far, far away. What good is this person or both of them to you if they make this type of in convince in your life. And remember most people are whom they hang around with. You donât want to be perceived as the same type person he/she is.

There are a lot more factors to this question than we have to come to a conclusion. But from what you have given us. You did the right thing by declining the sexual advance. Donât get caught up in the, he said/she said, scene. Step back an aside and the person will tell the true story. Keep your dignity; if you are in a relationship-never cheat. If the person that you are about to have a sexual encounter with is in a relationship-Say no!

My 2 Cents

Message edited by author 2005-03-28 16:25:18.
 03/28/2005 04:23:24 PM · #28
The drunk guy had previously asked out the girl that got malled. A couple years ago when they first met. But she wasn't single so she said no, plus she just wasn't interested. Which he brought up during his drunken tyrade this past weekend. You guys needn't worry about the girl giving into his advances, she's really not interested.

I think she feels now that as soon as he made the first pass at her that she should've left. She said that she didn't want to cause a scene and figured telling him "no" a few times would put out his fire. Apparently that didn't work. lol Not that it's funny all the same...
 03/28/2005 04:32:02 PM · #29
You should know once a guy is ready to go there is only one thing that stops that fire(well a few things, but you get my point...lol)
You are right that girl should have left after the first pass but like you said "she" prob thought that it was over after she said no.
I would even take a malling at this point...wait did I say that outloud???....lol
 03/28/2005 04:32:05 PM · #30
Originally posted by GoldBerry:
The drunk guy had previously asked out the girl that got malled. A couple years ago when they first met. But she wasn't single so she said no, plus she just wasn't interested. Which he brought up during his drunken tyrade this past weekend. You guys needn't worry about the girl giving into his advances, she's really not interested.

I think she feels now that as soon as he made the first pass at her that she should've left. She said that she didn't want to cause a scene and figured telling him "no" a few times would put out his fire. Apparently that didn't work. lol Not that it's funny all the same...


Am I reading and interrupting your post correctly. Is the guy in this post the same as the one that made the sexual advancement in your first post? IF SO , RUN â RUN LIKE THE WIND. He is not only a cheater is also a person that tries to entice another to cheat. He is will to cheat on his partner and will to charm another person to cheat while they are in a relationship.
 03/28/2005 04:46:19 PM · #31
Originally posted by SDW65:
Am I reading and interrupting your post correctly. Is the guy in this post the same as the one that made the sexual advancement in your first post? IF SO , RUN â RUN LIKE THE WIND. He is not only a cheater is also a person that tries to entice another to cheat. He is will to cheat on his partner and will to charm another person to cheat while they are in a relationship.


yea it's the same guy...he's apparently never cheated on a girl before. His best friend said that he's only seen him like this once before: the first time being when he asked her out (the girl that got malled) and she said no. LOL
03/28/2005 04:50:29 PM · #32
One thing is for sure, he is not ready to get married!!!
 03/28/2005 04:54:45 PM · #33
Originally posted by GoldBerry:
Originally posted by SDW65:
Am I reading and interrupting your post correctly. Is the guy in this post the same as the one that made the sexual advancement in your first post? IF SO , RUN â RUN LIKE THE WIND. He is not only a cheater is also a person that tries to entice another to cheat. He is will to cheat on his partner and will to charm another person to cheat while they are in a relationship.


yea it's the same guy...he's apparently never cheated on a girl before. His best friend said that he's only seen him like this once before: the first time being when he asked her out (the girl that got malled) and she said no. LOL


I'm sorry to be so straight forward but he is a cheat. If he makes sexual advancements even though they don't happen in my opinion he is steel a cheat. Because if they two women would not of said "NO" then it probably would of happened. And what does that say about a man that makes sexual advancements toward another person while engaged???? We at least know he has a cheating heart.

Message edited by author 2005-03-28 16:55:20.
 03/28/2005 04:57:13 PM · #34
Originally posted by SDW65:
I'm sorry to be so straight forward but he is a cheat. If he makes sexual advancements even though they don't happen in my opinion he is steel a cheat. Because if they two women would not of said "NO" then it probably would of happened. And what does that say about a man that makes sexual advancements toward another person while engaged???? We at least know he has a cheating heart.


I agree that even thinking or trying to get with another person is cheating. But there was only one woman he hit on and asked out (which is enough) not two. Either way, you're right, if she hadn't said no he would've definetly been into humping like bunnies.
 03/28/2005 04:58:37 PM · #35
then again, there are those people that look for the last hurrah before they exchange vows
edit- I still remain in the 'walk far far away' camp

Message edited by author 2005-03-28 16:59:17.
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