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02/18/2011 11:13:18 PM · #76 |
Originally posted by DrAchoo:
I think perhaps Louis may be thinking elsewhere. In the internet world there are many reasons why someone would join a site and within a few dozen posts reveal hints that they are being abused. Many of the scenarios raise red flags for everybody. |
Bingo. |
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02/19/2011 07:08:46 PM · #77 |
Originally posted by KenzieKupcake:
Where did all the chivalry go? I enjoy respectful men. |
Real, Medieval days chivalry wasn't about respect! I think you should be watching The Tudors to see how "chivalry" actually played out, historically. |
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02/19/2011 07:49:03 PM · #78 |
I recall a while back, though not that far back scrybz, women didn't want all that attention. "I'll open my own door thank you, I'll pay my own way, I'm burning my bra mister." Ya think this may have anything to do with it Kupcake? You are much too young to recall this and I wish you the best in sorting out your unhappiness.
Message edited by author 2011-02-19 19:50:16. |
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02/20/2011 05:57:20 PM · #79 |
Originally posted by KenzieKupcake:
Originally posted by shamrock:
Originally posted by KenzieKupcake:
NEW SUBJECT!
What's everyone's thought on abuse..? |
My ex hit me once. Once. I grew up being abused, once i was 12 and stood up for myself, i vowed never to let it happen again. When i could speak again, i got my best knife, cornered him, and told him if he ever hit me in anger again, he was losing a hand. We're no longer together, but he never raised a hand to me again.
I fail to understand women that put up with being hit, and go from man to man being treated the same way. Respect yourself. |
It's not in relationships..for me. |
Even if it is a parent, that's still a relationship. Just not a romantic one.
Regardless, i refused to continue being abused, by a parent or anyone else, when i was 12. So, if there is an issue that caused you to bring up this topic, rather than just morbid curiosity - then my advice is make it stop, now. And don't say you can't, because then you're just playing the victim. There are tons of resources available to those who choose to use them.
And you'll have to start by telling someone, somewhere, exactly what is going on. |
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02/21/2011 01:22:14 AM · #80 |
I think what it is, is my pet peave with the word "chivalry". Many times, it's just a code word meaning women should be part of a privileged class, when in actuality chivalry meant women were the chattel of their husbands or fathers (similar to how they are today in Islamic and some Asian cultures). When I hear a women say that she wants a man with values like the days of chivalry, my suggestion is for her to marry an oil sheik and join his harem in Saudi Arabia. The untold part of chivalry was that women had to "know their place" or else they were punished.
Personally I'm against such patriarchal systems. Instead, I believe in personal responsibility and accountability for your own actions regardless of your gender. If you are a woman who willingly stays with a man who mistreats you, then your misery is your own fault. There are literally thousands of other men out there who would love to be with you and not mistreat you. If your problem is that you only find abusive jerks attractive, then the real problem isn't in men -- it's in you. |
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04/06/2011 10:43:12 AM · #81 |
I know this is bringing up an old thread, but wanted to post...
Relationships take work, hard work, and commitment, compromise, understanding, give and take, language, caring, and believing and knowing that he is not perfect and neither are you, among many other things.
Coming from someone going on their 20th year of marriage (to the same guy). There have been lots of ups and downs and down and outs, near breaks, etc. but we've always managed to pull through. It took a lot of work, and learning...but we're still here and still happy.
Sometimes it's the little things that matter most...
He goes to gas station to fill gas and brings home my favorite soda...
He is genuinely sorry when he shares a cold with me...like now...
He makes me feel beautiful and loved even when I know I've screwed up and am not at my best...
Can he make me furious? Absolutely...
Can I make him furious? ABSOLUTELY!...
Men and women will always be different...some men are bad and some aren't and some are in-between...the same can be said for women... |
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04/06/2011 10:58:57 AM · #82 |
Originally posted by KenzieKupcake:
Where did all the chivalry go? I enjoy respectful men. |
Just think of the loss of it as part of the price for "equality", which seemed like such a nice idea in the 1960's.
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04/06/2011 02:31:06 PM · #83 |
Abuse in ANY form by ANYONE should NOT be tolerated at all!
If its a BF then dump his ass and possibly call the authorities if it has progressed to a very serious level, if its a friend they should not be a friend any longer and as before the authorities should be notified if its very serious, if its a family member call the local authorities and get help and get out.
Life is far to short to put up with abuse of any sort...
-dave
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04/06/2011 06:07:43 PM · #84 |
Originally posted by MelonMusketeer:
Originally posted by KenzieKupcake:
Where did all the chivalry go? I enjoy respectful men. |
Just think of the loss of it as part of the price for "equality", which seemed like such a nice idea in the 1960's. |
I truly can't say that I agree with this statement.
I know several young people that still have very good manners and treat people with respect. Mind you, they also have parents who assumed their responsibilities and sought to impart knowledge to their children on such things as ethics, respect, tolerance and morals.
Sadly, we are all so busy making a living that for some children parenting has been replaced by a television or computer games, and therein lies part of the problem.
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