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04/09/2008 11:39:00 AM · #26 |
Originally posted by TCGuru:
Originally posted by cryingdragon:
Get a female to dress up as the groom. Could be a great shoot. I'd definitely do it. |
You lie!! :P
You told me you wouldn't be caught DEAD in a dress!! Remember?? :P
However, I know I would gladly wear a suit and pose as my husbands husband :) hahhaaa I think it would be a lot 'O fun and it might just give that wife a way to connect with her husband and spend time with him and his hobby :)
Go for it girlie!! :) |
I meant the shoot, not the dressing up. |
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04/09/2008 04:32:37 PM · #27 |
I just keep getting visions from Silence of the Lambs.
"She puts the lotion on the skin, or she gets the hose again."
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04/09/2008 04:42:38 PM · #28 |
A couple fo things that have come to mind here.
You say that the wife is just tolerant of this hobby. I don't think that if she found out she would be happy at all and if the worse came to the worse what happens if it leads to a divorce. what do they tell the kids then. I know that is the worst case scene right there, but think of it from her point of view too.
Is this guy wanting these pictures for his own pleasure and to do private things with them (canna put it more delicatly). What happens if the wife comes in on him doing this, that is not going to be a pretty party after all that screaming.
If he was a single guy, then i would say hell yeah go for it and have fun. BUT in this case, he is married and that is a chose he made to be. You have to think of other people as does he. Right now dressign up in his bedroom is not a big deal, but having a photoshoot will and could be a huge deal for the wife.
I would just tread really carefully here as there are children and a wife in teh picture too |
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04/09/2008 04:46:05 PM · #29 |
you know what,
adding another man to the picture is not a good thing. trust me on this. the wife finds out he is out and kissing another man, then the shit will hit the fan, however tolerant she may be.
he is treadign down a very very slippery path right now and it is not leading back to his wife (that is from my best friend Steve who is gay and put in his 2 cents worth) |
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04/09/2008 04:47:45 PM · #30 |
Originally posted by JulietNN:
you know what,
adding another man to the picture is not a good thing. trust me on this. the wife finds out he is out and kissing another man, then the shit will hit the fan, however tolerant she may be.
he is treadign down a very very slippery path right now and it is not leading back to his wife (that is from my best friend Steve who is gay and put in his 2 cents worth) |
Does Steve want to do it? |
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04/09/2008 04:49:29 PM · #31 |
| he only goes for boys that are 25 and younger, he is a slut lol, (he just nodded at that statement!!!) |
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04/09/2008 06:53:56 PM · #32 |
from what he has told me he met his wife when he was karen. they have been married for 14years and his last wedding dress portrait was done about 10years ago and she was there for that one. I asked if his wife would like to dress as the groom and he said he would talk to her about it tonight and see if she was open to that option.
I think if the wife does join in it will be easier to explain to the kids later on (maybe just that mommy and daddy were goofing around and playing dress up). I would be alot more comfortable if the wife were part of it..or at least present so I would know for a fact that she was ok with it all.But I also think that this a grown man and totaly responsible for his own actions. only thing i will be guilty of is taking his money and giving some photos. I do also know that he is part of an online crossdressing community for support ect so Im pretty sure hes not going to do what was so delicately mentioned earlier. He has extreamly feminine features (such as a really baby face!) so It wont be hard at all getting him to pass for a real female.I think this could be a really fun shoot....if i decide to do it...still thinking about it tho.
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04/09/2008 07:40:38 PM · #33 |
Like I said earlier, best post so far this year. :)
you just gotta do it. |
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04/09/2008 07:47:47 PM · #34 |
| Why don't you ask his wife? She is the one who can best determine "how far" you can safely go with this project. If she doesn't know about it or doesn't want to/can't discuss it, don't do it. |
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04/09/2008 07:54:03 PM · #35 |
| NO amount of money. ...but that's just me. Good luck in any case. |
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04/09/2008 08:05:07 PM · #36 |
| This is a great post! I would do it if the wife were on board with the idea, not necessarily partaking in the event but at least ok with what was going on. If she isn't too hot on the idea or doesn't even know then I would decline, especially since he is a friend and you will be getting involved with a potential martial issue. I would let him know that I would probably be laughing a lot though:) |
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04/09/2008 09:07:09 PM · #37 |
As long as his wife's okay with it, why not???? Treat it like any other wedding shoot, and treat him with the respect you'd give any other bride.
Personally, I don't see anything wrong with it...*shrug* |
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04/09/2008 09:11:05 PM · #38 |
I don't think that there is anything wrong with it, trust me, i have shot some weird stuff and this is tame in camparison.
But for things like this you have to think a little more about the family and who and what it can affect, pretty much the same as any photoshoot really |
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04/09/2008 09:13:10 PM · #39 |
Beecee, I think that may be the sticking point, the wife. From what I can gather she just tolerates it and usually means not encourage it.
So it is one of those moral judgment calls
But then again, that is just how I see it, may be different for other people |
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04/09/2008 11:27:10 PM · #40 |
| I think you are thinking too much..... I would certainly not be finding a "model" for anyone else but if he does then fine so long as it's an upfront shoot with payment e.t.c. Would you shoot a woman in a bikini if the man was just okay but not supportive? It just a gig... okay an unusual one :-0) but could be a great few images for the portfolio.... Personally I think it would work better with a woman as the groom but that's just me.... |
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