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Sony 24-70mm F4 Vario-Tessar T* FE OSS

11/03/2007 09:29:46 AM · #1

I am so sick and tired of everyone I know wanting me to hot/glam/dress up more.. I'm by no means a slob so why oh why does everyone think I need to look better.. I don't care what other people think of me and I don't have self esteem issues about the way I look and nobody likes that... The world has fricking regressed back to some kind of dark age where women have to look attractive 24/7 to be worth something.. It doesn't matter how good I feel about myself..
I believe in the out the other ear policy but people are getting annoyingly persistent.. and I'm feeling twitchy.. grrr

Message edited by author 2007-11-03 09:31:19.

Bear_Music

Samsung Galaxy S24 Ultra

11/03/2007 10:17:49 AM · #2

I feel for ya. Out of curiosity, are you mostly hearing this from guy friends or girl friends?

R.

FocusPoint

XIAOMI Redmi Note 8 Pro

11/03/2007 10:27:16 AM · #3

by the way, I think you have one more left for your fav selection wish... you are at 9 :)

RayEthier

Canon EOS-5D Mark II

Canon EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6 USM

11/03/2007 10:40:28 AM · #4

Originally posted by UrfaTheGreat:

I am so sick and tired of everyone I know wanting me to hot/glam/dress up more.. I'm by no means a slob so why oh why does everyone think I need to look better..

What I am curious about is whether or not you have asked this type of question to those making the suggestions. It could well be that theirs is a misguided attempt at improving your life.

Ray

11/03/2007 10:41:10 AM · #5

Originally posted by Bear_Music:

I feel for ya. Out of curiosity, are you mostly hearing this from guy friends or girl friends?

R.

girls.. the guys wouldn't dare

11/03/2007 10:47:55 AM · #6

Originally posted by RayEthier:

Originally posted by UrfaTheGreat:
I am so sick and tired of everyone I know wanting me to hot/glam/dress up more.. I'm by no means a slob so why oh why does everyone think I need to look better..

What I am curious about is whether or not you have asked this type of question to those making the suggestions. It could well be that theirs is a misguided attempt at improving your life.

Ray

They think that's how one gets a boyfriend.. they're ignoring the fact I don't want one right now..

Canon EF 70-200mm f/4.0L USM

11/03/2007 10:49:46 AM · #7

Originally posted by FocusPoint:

by the way, I think you have one more left for your fav selection wish... you are at 9 :)

^_^

Noel_ZH

Canon EOS-40D

11/03/2007 10:51:19 AM · #8

Heh, just take it from the perspective "I am who I am, not confined by any branding, trends or what other people want me to be. As such, I am proud to be free :D"

Bear_Music

Samsung Galaxy S24 Ultra

Sony 24-70mm F4 Vario-Tessar T* FE OSS

11/03/2007 11:10:15 AM · #9

Originally posted by UrfaTheGreat:

Originally posted by Bear_Music:
I feel for ya. Out of curiosity, are you mostly hearing this from guy friends or girl friends?

R.

girls.. the guys wouldn't dare

That figures. They are showing herd mentality. You live outside their comfort zone and they don't know how to deal with you on their own terms. Stand firm.

R.

rox_rox

Canon EOS-20D

Canon EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6 USM

11/03/2007 11:10:54 AM · #10

As long as you can look back when you're 40, heavy and wrinkled with no regrets about the way you looked in your youth, then you have nothing to worry about.

I may have pressured my friends to play dress-up at your age. It was a bonding experience, and I was also insecure enough that I didn't want to be seen with any slouches:O

(Edit to add: That's the herd mentality Robert just mentioned.)

Fortunately, all of that pressure subsides as the years go by; along with your youthful appearance.

You are at that period in your life where the important stuff comes up for most people, like career and long-term relationships. Society tells us that these things are easier for those who look good.

If you are truly content with yourself and your life. I suggest you emphasize this to your friends. If they don't get it, find some friends who do.

Message edited by author 2007-11-03 11:11:44.

violinist123

Canon EOS-6D

Canon EF 24-70mm f/2.8L USM

11/03/2007 11:11:22 AM · #11

Careful or they will trick you on to one of those surprise makeover shows on cable...