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05/10/2005 01:03:27 PM · #1 |
Originally posted by glad2badad:
That, to me, is semi-scary in itself. Kids grow up with this stuff and learn NOT to be afraid? My 3 year-old is young enough to be scared when he sees it and that's fine with me.
What about the kids that grow up not knowing what is real and what isn't? What's ok and what's not? There is a whole can of worms that this could open up regarding the influence of TV, PC gaming, etc.. on kids today. That would be a clear hijacking of this thread, so I'll leave the can opener on my desk.
Originally posted by ursula:
...Personally, I don't think kids are nearly as scared of creepy stuff as we sometimes think they are... |
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Ok, I started a new thread because I didn't want to hijack the one this quote appeared in, but I had to respond...
When I was a child, as young as 4 or 5, and all through my development.. I *LIVED* for the times when I could be scared. Fear was a huge rush for me, and I tried to feel it whenever I could. I was watching movies like Poltergeist and Friday the 13th as young as 6.. (I remember one particular case after watching "The Shining" where I was up for a few hours wondering if my dad was going to come kill me with an axe).
However, not all kids can be like I was, and some do get affected by scary or frightening things much more adversely. However, it's not the influences *I'm* particularily worried about. TV, Video Games, and the like.. can all be *turned off*. They can be kept to a minimum, especially in your own household, and you(we) as parents and caregivers can do our best to teach our children the difference between real and fantasy, and with the exception of a few children that don't understand it no matter how hard you try (and recognizing these types and working extra hard at policing their influences works wonders), there's absolutely no reason to go around blaming media for the way kids are in today's world.
You want blame? Look at parenting. Period.
We're a victim society, and parenting in the last 20 years has reflected this. There is no personal responsibility. When kids do something wrong, parents are suddenly blaming it on everything *but* themselves and their parenting (or lack thereof) methods. (Yes, this is a generalization, there are many, MANY wonderful parents out there, and I am not addressing *you* ok?). Children today, on a large scale, are given everything they want, are allowed to shirk responsibilities, are *allowed* to spend all their time becoming desensitized to violent movies, video games, and the like.. and thus.. problems.
So.. yah.. Rant over, and perhaps I should have started this in the Rant thread, but someone can move it over if they need to... but let's stop always blaming media and the like for our problems, can we?
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05/10/2005 01:27:20 PM · #2 |
It's a supply and demand world isn't it? If parents weren't buying the violent PC Games, or renting similar type movies then maybe it wouldn't be such a lucrative market. But then some kids get jobs, have money, etc...don't let the kids bring it in the house right?
Our 12 year old came home with a CD a few months ago. It had been 'loaned' to him by a friend at school. I noticed the CD and wondered what it was. Not being familiar with the music I plugged it in my PC - man oh man! It had a pretty decent sound to it, similar to rock sounds from the early 70's, but the lyrics! F this, suicide that, treat women like this, etc... The parents of the kid that 'loaned' it are friends of ours. They had no idea. They also have cable TV, they buy the kid pretty much what he wants. You get the idea.
Guess what parent is now calling my wife saying she can't control her kid anymore - what should she do, etc...
Parenting isn't easy, especially if you learn to use the word 'no'. It's hard and sometimes downright painful to say 'no'. Are my kids going to be exposed to things I don't think they should? Yes. But hopefully we can pace the exposure and teach them along the way what's right, what's real, and what's not. |
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05/10/2005 02:30:45 PM · #3 |
Originally posted by glad2badad:
It's a supply and demand world isn't it? If parents weren't buying the violent PC Games, or renting similar type movies then maybe it wouldn't be such a lucrative market. But then some kids get jobs, have money, etc...don't let the kids bring it in the house right?
Our 12 year old came home with a CD a few months ago. It had been 'loaned' to him by a friend at school. I noticed the CD and wondered what it was. Not being familiar with the music I plugged it in my PC - man oh man! It had a pretty decent sound to it, similar to rock sounds from the early 70's, but the lyrics! F this, suicide that, treat women like this, etc... The parents of the kid that 'loaned' it are friends of ours. They had no idea. They also have cable TV, they buy the kid pretty much what he wants. You get the idea.
Guess what parent is now calling my wife saying she can't control her kid anymore - what should she do, etc...
Parenting isn't easy, especially if you learn to use the word 'no'. It's hard and sometimes downright painful to say 'no'. Are my kids going to be exposed to things I don't think they should? Yes. But hopefully we can pace the exposure and teach them along the way what's right, what's real, and what's not. |
This was all I was trying to say :)
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05/11/2005 11:29:02 AM · #4 |
Hell, I know parents who smoke dope with their kids and grandkids. The 60s really screwed this country up for raising kids.
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