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Sigma 18-125mm f/3.5-5.6 DC for Canon

03/28/2005 02:43:44 PM · #1

What would you do if an engaged friend of yours was all over you? What would you do if said-friend made a big drunken scene after you've politely declined his/her sexual advances??

It doesn't necessarily involve me, I'm just curious as to what other people think of the situation. I'm just bewildered. And no, I'm not the drunken/horny friend either. lol

rex

Canon PowerShot SD780

03/28/2005 02:44:39 PM · #2

If she was good looking enough and I wasn't married. I would hit it.

crockettdl

Nikon D100

03/28/2005 02:46:46 PM · #3

I would talk to her once she was sober and find out what's going on. I wouldn't get between them unless she won't quite. I wouldn't date her because she'd probably do the same to me.

Kavey

Canon EOS-400D Rebel XTi

03/28/2005 02:47:38 PM · #4

Depends on whether the potentially cheated partner was a good friend of mine too.

Either way I think I'd a) feel a lot less positive about the relationship I had with my friend. Talk about not respecting boundaries... and b) I'd advise the friend to have a long, hard think about whether he/ she really wants to be part of a serious, committed relationship at all.

kdkaboom

Canon EOS-350D Rebel XT

Canon EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6

03/28/2005 02:53:49 PM · #5

If it's a good friend, talk to them about it and try to figure out what their prob is! Otherwise, walk away! Walk far far away!

ericsuth

Canon EOS-20D

Canon EF 24-70mm f/2.8L USM

03/28/2005 02:56:43 PM · #6

I'm in the "walk away, walk far far away" camp

PollyBean

Canon EOS-5D

Canon EF 24-105mm f/4.0L IS

03/28/2005 02:59:47 PM · #7

I think this is one of those "damned if ya do, damned if ya don't" situations!

Canon EF 300mm f/2.8L IS USM

03/28/2005 03:01:05 PM · #8

There are alot of if's in that one. Sounds like some one has a drinking problem...lol.

Skip

Canon EOS-1D X

03/28/2005 03:04:23 PM · #9

a friend of yours is engaged to someone else and hits on you...

1) the hitter is NOT ready or mature enough for a commited relationship
2) if you were to become involved with the hitter, you would not be able to count on any fidelity
3) if you were to take advantage of the situation, you would
..A) be no better than the hitter,
..B) not the type of friend others could count on for fidelity

it's up to you, the type of people you want to associate with, and the type of person you want to be recognized as...

Jacko

Canon EOS-20D

Canon EF 17-40mm f/4.0L USM

03/28/2005 03:08:20 PM · #10

Smoke 'em if you got 'em.

Message edited by author 2005-03-28 15:08:32.

Nikon AF Nikkor 50mm f/1.8D

03/28/2005 03:10:11 PM · #11

Originally posted by Jacko:

Smoke 'em if you got 'em.

LOL you haven't met the fiance in question. I'm pretty sure she could take ALL of us at one time if she was pissed off. lol

frisca

Nikon D70

03/28/2005 03:11:40 PM · #12

i think skiprow had it right. Its a bit of a no-brainer. Stay away because no good can come of it.

Canon EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6

03/28/2005 03:11:44 PM · #13

Ok, so it the woman who was drunk and hitting on another guy?

Chinabun

Canon PowerShot SD990 IS

03/28/2005 03:15:55 PM · #14

i would never be considered the other woman or the one that destroyed a relationship..not saying i'm innocent but i wouldnt mess around with a guy who was involved..i want to be the center of attention not the washed up hasbeen that was only good for a night.

Sonifo

Canon EOS-400D Rebel XTi

03/28/2005 03:16:08 PM · #15

If I was hit on by that person I would tell the person they are about to marry. I feel it is the right thing to do because later down the road he/she may still be doing the same thing and she/he will catch he/she and end up divorcing. Why go through years of marriage and heartache.

hopper

Canon EOS-80D

Canon EF 35mm f/2 IS USM

03/28/2005 03:25:43 PM · #16

yup ... if you're friends with both, you give the offender 24 hours to tell his/her fiance' ... then you do it, too, whether they've spoken up or not.

Originally posted by Sonifo:

03/28/2005 03:28:13 PM · #17

Originally posted by hopper:

yup ... if you're friends with both, you give the offender 24 hours to tell his/her fiance' ... then you do it, too, whether they've spoken up or not.

What if you don't know either all THAT well? You mostly have mutual friends but could avoid the couple for the rest of your life if you really wanted to? lol

03/28/2005 03:35:56 PM · #18

I would set the hitter down for a long talk and ask them what they are thinking. Being drunk is no excuse, drunk or not those thoughts had to be there to hit on someone else.

03/28/2005 03:38:23 PM · #19

Originally posted by lonewolf:

Being drunk is no excuse, drunk or not those thoughts had to be there to hit on someone else.

Yeah, that seemed pretty evident.

03/28/2005 03:41:25 PM · #20

lol So I take it it was pretty bad? as in alot more than flirting?

Canon EF-S 18-135mm f/3.5-5.6 IS STM

03/28/2005 03:44:50 PM · #21

Originally posted by lonewolf:

lol So I take it it was pretty bad? as in alot more than flirting?

On the drunk's part? Oh yea....it was a bad scene. Completely 100% not reciprocated I can guarantee you that.

SteveJ

Canon EOS-7D

03/28/2005 03:45:30 PM · #22

I would tell her that I was flattered by her attention, but that my wife would attempt some DIY surgery on me if I succumbed.

I would say, yes, it was a great party, but she has to be up early for work, and...by the way...where did she lose her boyfriend? Cos he's got the car keys!

I would wish her goodnight, and tell her I'll see her with boyfriend tomorrow and hope she doesn't have a hangover.

Then, I'd run like stink as soon as she turned her back.

Steve

03/28/2005 03:51:18 PM · #23

So running like stink seems to be the general consensus. LOL
I think if the fiance found out she'd do a little casterating of her own.