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07/06/2004 04:20:06 AM · #1 |
Well my husband was missing..and turns out while I was filling out a missing person's report he calls our home phone. I get home and see I have a message waiting.(actually 5). He called from a Blocked number somewhere in Kansas City, Kansas to tell me we need to talk!!! All this time I'm worried about him and he's not home. Does it sound like he's cheated on me or what? He won't give me a phone number to call him back at in the messages...and I don't hear anybody else in the messages..but something is not adding up.. It's 3:20am here and I'm on an adreline rush..I have taken off my wedding ring..and threw all his sh*t outside the door. What is your opinion on the outake?
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07/06/2004 04:43:46 AM · #2 |
| I know it is difficult for you, but I would wait and see what the story is before going to such extremes of taking your wedding ring off and throwing his stuff out the door. There is probably some logical explanation for his absence. After all he is in the army and anything is possible there right, army exercises or night training. There could be a number of reasons. |
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07/06/2004 04:56:56 AM · #3 |
the Army doesn't even know where he is. I just got a message on my phone from him telling me "we need to talk". This is insane. I am pissed.. I was worried till I got the message.
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07/06/2004 05:39:55 AM · #4 |
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07/06/2004 05:41:17 AM · #5 |
Originally posted by crazycrystal1977:
the Army doesn't even know where he is. I just got a message on my phone from him telling me "we need to talk". This is insane. I am pissed.. I was worried till I got the message. |
Heck, most of the time the Army doesn't know where anybody is. It's probably a good idea to remain calm and wait and see what he has to say. Who knows, maybe he was abducted by aliens or something. Just remember, worrying never helps, it just makes you sick if you do it long enough. I hope everything works out for you.
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07/06/2004 05:51:41 AM · #6 |
I have an idea of where he is at...I know that he is in Kansas city, Kansas. And that he was supposed to be back Sunday night witht the rest of his unit. He called at 2:00am (Central Time) and left a message on the phone saying "We need to talk" And that scares me. This is not like my husband. My worst fears are telling me that he cheated on me. And/or he is leaving me. I don't know what to think..this is crazy. but it's 4:49am here now..and I can't sleep for the life of me. I am waiting for the phone to ring again wondering where he's at. All I know is that he abandoned me and my family's house Monday (5July) when he was supposed to pick me up. I am more than mad cuz he really screwed up here.
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07/06/2004 06:04:36 AM · #7 |
"We need to talk" isn't always a bad thing. It may seem bad at the moment, but if he is unhappy with something, talking could help you both sort it out and be happy again :)
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07/06/2004 06:32:42 AM · #8 |
Crystal,
It's entirely possible that your fears are correct. It's also entirely possible that they are not. As frustrating as it is, you're simply not going to know until you finally do get hold of him to talk.
There's nothing I'm going to be able to say that will prevent you from worrying/stressing about the situation, so I'm not even going to try. Taking action based on assumptions, however, may be premature. To be sure, you should prepare yourself (emotionally and practically) for the worst, but also consider the possibility, even the likelihood, that the situation is something other than what you have made it out to be.
Best of luck,
-Terry
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07/06/2004 07:07:26 AM · #9 |
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07/06/2004 07:10:40 AM · #10 |
I agree with Terry. It could be true, but it could also be something else... My brother-in-law works with the witness protection program... sometimes they need to hide people for safty reasons. My sister,married to this guy, is also sometimes kept in the dark untill certain cases are over.
I truly hope things work out for the best.
-Julie
Message edited by author 2004-07-06 07:12:59. |
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07/06/2004 07:22:14 AM · #11 |
| Maybe he has just gone AWOL - and therefore can't go home as he could be arrested.. just my 2 cents (or pennies, here in the UK) - but hang in there - I hope everything works out for you |
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07/06/2004 07:23:05 AM · #12 |
| my advice to you is to start drinking heavily :). ahh, alcohol... the cause and solutions to all mans problems... and what the hell, your cute enough. grab a parka and come live in my igloo. does this mean we'll be seeing you on jerry springer??? if at most I have put a smile on your face. I hope things work out but if not I have a parka waiting:) |
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07/06/2004 07:28:31 AM · #13 |
My first thought once you said Army was actually that he's getting deployed. It would work with the timeline you are mentioning. Just a thought.
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07/06/2004 08:03:52 AM · #14 |
Keep in mind you were filling out a missing persons report...be thankful he is ok...and stress over the problems when you get to talk to him.
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07/06/2004 09:04:32 AM · #15 |
I think Terry has said everything I wanted to say and probably more eloquently.
Not knowing what's going on means you instinctively look for explanations and fear the worst. It may be sucky but it may not be what you expect. Then again it may be.
But I would also tend not to act (throwing his stuff out etc) based on any assumptions.
Stay strong, take care, go well.
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07/06/2004 09:11:35 AM · #16 |
He came home at 6:15am (central) time with another woman. He did not sleep with her but things will hopefully work out. Thanks for your support.
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07/06/2004 10:25:52 AM · #17 |
Glad to hear he's back so that you can at least begin the dialogue and stop worrying about the unknowns. Wishing you luck and strength for the road ahead.
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07/06/2004 10:40:10 AM · #18 |
one thing is for damn sure, if he comes home and all his shit is thrown accross the lawn, you will be having alot more to talk about..
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07/06/2004 10:54:14 AM · #19 |
Originally posted by crazycrystal1977:
He came home at 6:15am (central) time with another woman. He did not sleep with her but things will hopefully work out. Thanks for your support. |
Okay, so he showed up with another woman?!? Does that mean he actually had the gall to bring this woman into their home?? If that's the case then his shit strewn across the lawn should be the least of his worries as if I were in Crystal's place I'd be forced to kill him. I mean, how immature is that?!
But then Crystal says, "He did not sleep with her but things will hopefully work out." Surely that was a typo as it infers that he didn't get lucky yet but hopefully he will in the near future.
Having only one side of this drama makes it difficult to offer advice but, Crystal, if he DID show up at your home with this woman in tow, I'd throw him out in a heartbeat. There's not a man on the planet worth putting up with that kind of behavior. |
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07/06/2004 11:03:06 AM · #20 |
| I am sorry you are going thru this Crystal. (((hugs))) |
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07/06/2004 01:21:23 PM · #21 |
I am also sorry to hear of you going through this. I went through something very similar with my ex-husband who was in the military. The single men make a habit of keeping 'score cards' while on R&R and compare them for bets and prizes when they return back to the ships, sometimes married men get caught up in it.. mine did. I divored him in 1998 and still haven't found anyone permanent yet, but I know my life is better now than being treated as if I don't exist. Its very very hard being the wife of a military person, insecurities run high and 3am phone calls only cause insanity. I will be praying for you and your family. All will work out if you put your faith in yourself and trust your instincts. Much Love!
Dana
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07/06/2004 02:19:45 PM · #22 |
Personally...
If my wife brought something like this up on an internet forum, we would seriously need to talk. This is a personal issue between you and your husband and you probably shouldn't be sharing it with the world.
Maybe sharing this on the internet and your lack of trust for him (you right away suspect he's cheating on you) is what he want's to talk to you about. I'd want to talk about it.
I hope things do work out for you, but we need to talk is a lot better to hear then "I'm in love with someone else" "I'm having a sex change" or "I'm out of here." |
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07/06/2004 03:52:21 PM · #23 |
I hope everything is ok, I have been thinking about you all day!
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07/06/2004 04:13:14 PM · #24 |
Originally posted by louddog:
Personally... we need to talk is a lot better to hear then "I'm in love with someone else" "I'm having a sex change" or "I'm out of here." |
I agree with louddog and hope it works out for you. I tend to look for the positive in anything, so either you two will be stronger than ever or you've got some possibilities for the Freedom challenge. Good luck! |
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07/07/2004 06:09:32 AM · #25 |
Just wondering what happen to Crystal after!
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