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05/12/2009 05:11:57 PM · #1
lately ive been feeling down and im not really sure why, but ive been down to the point that i dont want to do the things i love to do most.
i havent picked up my camera to take not one photo in almost two weeks, and everytime i do things never seem to happen in other words. i push all the good ideas out. like all week i had the great idea to get some flowers to put in my room
one to make it smell and look better
two to have something to photograph
but for some reason i cant even get the motavation to do that.
i guess what im looking for is a bit of motavation or a push forward, sorry to rant here
i just didnt know where to go>
05/12/2009 05:17:57 PM · #2
I hear you. I understand. I'll be back in a little bit to talk about this, but I want you to know you've been heard.

05/12/2009 05:30:17 PM · #3
You're describing a place I've been in more than a few times in my life. People are gonna weigh in here, I assume, and tell you that you are describing a condition of "clinical depression" and, as far as that goes, they are probably right. They'll recommend that you see your doctor and get a workup. They'll tell you there are drugs that might be able to help you, and they may even be right. There *are* pharmaceutical fixes for depression, which *is* often chemical in nature. So I agree with that, and I'd encourage you to do that.

I also have a more personal take on it, but I'm not sure how to express that. So I need to think about it. But I've been there, and I've gotten through it, so there's definitely a light at the end of the tunnel. Let me ruminate on this a bit. Things are about o get busy here, but I'll be back.

05/12/2009 06:04:59 PM · #4
I think that may happen to all of us once in a while. It's not usually that strong or that long for me, but I know that the downs will turn around after a while, and you will be back up again. It seems pretty gloomy though while the downs part of it is going on. Try to connect with people if you can, which is why you posted this thread, and that is a good starting move.
05/12/2009 09:11:21 PM · #5
Hey there!

I just popped into to DPC to see what's new, and noticed this post.

Depression is a miserable place to be, but I really believe that it is a necessary part of life. Otherwise, how would we know how wonderful the happy times really are? I bet Bear_Music can come up with some eloquent literary quote to illustrate this.

I've been in some deep, dark places over the years, but I always kept my eye on that light at the end of the tunnel. I hope you do the same. I see nothing wrong with wallowing in a bit of misery and even having a good cry once in a while, as long as you promise to give yourself a plan for the future.

The interesting thing is that once I give myself permission to feel rotten for a certain amount of time, I am usually raring to get out and feel better. Your photography is gorgeous and I'm absolutely thrilled and confounded to be the first to choose you as a favorite photographer! Please channel your emotions into some more beautiful art and buy yourself some flowers if and when you feel like looking at flowers!

05/12/2009 09:33:43 PM · #6
Ive been there too... been through times were I didnt want to do anything, had a lack of energy, motivation, joy .... everything.

One thing that got me out of it the most was photography. I used it as an escape, and forced myself to go out. I know that is difficult when your in this state, but you really have to take it one day at a time.

So... Tomorrow, when you wake up, commit to yourself that it will be better than the last day, and commit yourself to buying some flowers, and taking some photos of them. Then, the next day, give yourself another task.

Also, and this may come across as cheesy, but trust me, it works. Go out of your way to do something nice for someone else. Its incredible how great you feel when you make someone smile. But, the key is that you have to do it without the thought that they will do anything in return. In fact, it sometimes works better when you do something nice for someone, and they dont even realize you did it. You will feel a lot of personal satisfaction.

Again, its cheesy, but it works.

Have a good day tomorrow :)
05/12/2009 09:34:03 PM · #7
Hey Joker,
1- Smile. Do it even if you dont want. you will feel better (this is true... try it);
2- Exercise;
3- Eat chocolate;
4- Do something that you should do... the job-done feeling is good to the brain;
5- Go to the sunlight as soon as possible;
6- Talk to the people...

Hope you get better soon!
05/12/2009 09:39:17 PM · #8
Good advice from rox_rox: giving yourself permission to feel unmotivated. It is the other side of the coin of giving yourself permission to be happy.
05/12/2009 09:45:17 PM · #9
It's not any fun being in that place, but it's not something that will last--the hardest part is finding a way through until it passes. And it will pass.

My one piece of advice to you is something that took me years to realize, and yet I still don't follow my own rules. Anyway, my point is, don't try to force the issue with things you think should make you happy. To put it a different way, if photography made you happy in the past, don't try to force the issue by forcing the photography--it can make you even more depressed if it doesn't work out. Save your happy things for when you're happy, otherwise you'll start to resent them when they can't fix your problems.

Now's your time to explore. Go someplace you've never been. Go someplace restful, simple. Spend some time at a zoo. You just need to get out of your head for awhile. Stop thinking and relax. If you try something new, it won't matter if it doesn't work out because your expectations won't be too high. But if you try to force the things that you usually love, it will be much more disappointing. Give yourself some wallowing time, and then go explore the world.
05/12/2009 10:05:57 PM · #10
It's ok not to be happy all the time. I usually watch movies when I am down. Not just any movies, but those that stir emotions of some sort.. comedies, tear-jerkers, or just a personal favorite. Sometimes it is just good to feel , and let it lead to motivation.
05/12/2009 10:52:25 PM · #11
Good advice from fidave about feeling.
05/12/2009 11:21:40 PM · #12
wow im truly blown away! thank you all for being there/here, it feels like a big hug lol and actualy put a smile on my face!
but i just want to say thanks again, i know its an up hill battle, and some times you just need to walk it, and well i guess thats what ive gotta do
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