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07/21/2007 12:25:19 PM · #1 |
....bet you didn't expect to see my name here, eh?
Well, here's an abbreviated version of the story:
Last January my girlfriend and I found out that she was pregnant, which we weren't planning on.....but it happened. At first, after the shock wore off, we were planning to go the adoption route. And we stuck with that plan........until two weeks ago or so. We both had a change of heart and decided to give this whole "parent" thing a try. We aren't very old, I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 19, and we've had to do some rapid maturing over the past couple of month. I'm still not very mature (I'm the person who took this photo  ), but you know....I don't see that as such a bad thing. It's a boy, by the way, and his name is going to be Emri Cielo Kimbrough.
One thing that I have started to do is plan for the future. Everything I think about is significantly altered by the fact that I now have someone else that will be depending on me. We are going to be moving to Seattle next June to settle as a family. We chose Seattle because of the available schools and jobs, as well as the music scene. I'm going to be working towards my Masters degree in photography (Why, I'm not too sure yet...I might pursue being a teacher) and Rachel (the girlfriend) will be working and staying home with the baby at first, then she'll be going to school for writing.
I thought I'd let you guys know. I've been gone a lot lately for more than one reason, but I've been entering challenges now for a couple of weeks and plan to get back into the swing of things. Rachel's due date is October 23rd, I'll make sure to post as many pictures as I can for you guys.
Take care.
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07/21/2007 12:29:08 PM · #2 |
Congrats on both the baby and your mature decisionmaking! Being a dad has been fantastic. :)
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07/21/2007 12:33:09 PM · #3 |
I hope you have a healthy baby and a happy life together. Just wondering, will you go all the way and get married, too?
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07/21/2007 12:34:12 PM · #4 |
| Congrats! You'll have a new model to shot! |
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07/21/2007 01:53:42 PM · #5 |
Thanks guys.
As for the whole marriage thing....we aren't going to rush into it. I know some people look down upon raising a child while not being married, they think it's "sinful", but I would rather take my time and not rush into a marriage. When people hurry into marriage, bad things happen....like the millions of divorces these days. I'm confident that my girlfriend and I will be happy together and we do plan on getting married eventually, but not necessarily right now. Right now we are busy getting ready for the baby. So that's our stance on that, good question...I appreciate it.
Oh, by the way....I've started a blog: DontFa.de if you guys want to keep track of my goings on, and what not.
Caleb |
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07/21/2007 01:58:24 PM · #6 |
| I would recommend living near family or friends who can babysit and provide other kinds of support. It makes a HUGE difference. |
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07/21/2007 03:00:35 PM · #7 |
| Congrats to you both Caleb :D |
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07/21/2007 03:29:19 PM · #8 |
Well, congratulations... But I gotta echo what Posthumous just said: I think it's borderline insane to be 21 and 19 and move 3000 miles to go to school, with a new baby... Unless one of you has family in Seattle?
Another thing: seek the advice of an experienced tax man on how to set up this family unit so you can minimize your taxes — it's a lot easier for a married couple.
Good luck!
R.
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07/21/2007 03:39:26 PM · #9 |
Congrats!!!
Ditto what Posthumous said.
It will not be very easy for you and your girlfriend to tackle a newborn alone..believe me. I had my daughter 2 months ago and we were almost alone (no family ...but some friends ), and the first 15-20 days were VERY difficult for us...its still difficult but not as much. |
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07/21/2007 04:09:02 PM · #10 |
Well, we'll be ten minutes from her dad and about an hour and a half from my parents for the first 9 months of the babies life, we aren't going o move right away. So hopefully we'll have enough time to adjust and at least try to get situated, both financially and as parents. Also, nothing is set in stone at the moment...if we feel the need to stay here another year or two then we can.
I will definitely have someone work on my taxes for me....I'm not to keen on doing them myself, especially in this situation.
Anyways, thanks for all the helpful comments and advice.
My blog is down right now because the namesevers are updating, but it should be back up in a day or two.
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07/21/2007 04:56:35 PM · #11 |
Originally posted by Bear_Music:
Another thing: seek the advice of an experienced tax man on how to set up this family unit so you can minimize your taxes — it's a lot easier for a married couple.
Good luck!
R. |
Legal resources for unmarried couples living together |
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07/21/2007 05:59:07 PM · #12 |
Congratulations, Caleb and here's wishing your new little family a great future. :)
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07/21/2007 07:02:11 PM · #13 |
Originally posted by GeneralE:
Originally posted by Bear_Music:
Another thing: seek the advice of an experienced tax man on how to set up this family unit so you can minimize your taxes — it's a lot easier for a married couple.
Good luck!
R. |
Legal resources for unmarried couples living together |
didn't read the link but you may want to look into health care for non married couples, since I've always been military I'm not sure how many companies offer health care to people that aren't your spouse...of course the child's care should be easy to set up.
Good luck and congratulations. |
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07/21/2007 07:14:12 PM · #14 |
| Wow Caleb congrats on being a Daddy that is awesome. I was a young mother but have 2 wonderful children and a great husband and we have been together for 9 years now. I can't wait to see updates as you guys go along! |
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07/21/2007 07:36:57 PM · #15 |
Congrats. I agree with living near family and friends.
The best Christmas present my wife and I had one year was friends taking our one year old daughter for two weeks. We missed each other, but she loved being with our friends and their kids. One good thing we got from it was Katherine has no problems with sleepovers.
BTW, congrats on going for the Masters. I'm getting ready to start mine too (but in Management not photography). |
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07/21/2007 07:38:12 PM · #16 |
| Maybe now is the appropriate time to change your name to stare_at_the_son. |
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07/21/2007 11:33:26 PM · #17 |
Originally posted by TechnoShroom:
Maybe now is the appropriate time to change your name to stare_at_the_son. |
....and take out those annoying underscores. :P |
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07/22/2007 12:02:18 AM · #18 |
Originally posted by stare_at_the_sun:
Originally posted by TechnoShroom:
Maybe now is the appropriate time to change your name to stare_at_the_son. |
....and take out those annoying underscores. :P |
Underscores do have value though depending on how you use the site. |
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07/22/2007 12:04:31 AM · #19 |
Originally posted by TechnoShroom:
Originally posted by stare_at_the_sun:
Originally posted by TechnoShroom:
Maybe now is the appropriate time to change your name to stare_at_the_son. |
....and take out those annoying underscores. :P |
Underscores do have value though depending on how you use the site. |
You can't have spaces in usernames. If you want a multi-word username, underscore is the normative way of doing this.
R.
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07/22/2007 01:31:40 AM · #20 |
Caleb - congratulations! Being a Dad is a wonderful experience. You may be a young couple but I know how wonderful this will be for you.
Mike
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07/22/2007 01:44:35 AM · #21 |
Originally posted by TechnoShroom:
Maybe now is the appropriate time to change your name to stare_at_the_son. |
hehe... That's cute. I never knew that you did 'cute.' |
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07/22/2007 02:51:30 AM · #22 |
Originally posted by stare_at_the_sun:
We both had a change of heart and decided to give this whole "parent" thing a try. |
First off, congratulations, Caleb! Second, you don't give parenting "a try" - it's for life. Forever. I hope everything works out for Emri_Cielo_Kimbrough. :) |
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07/22/2007 05:44:40 AM · #23 |
Congratulations Caleb!
I hope you 3 are gonna be one very happy family :D |
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07/22/2007 06:37:45 AM · #24 |
Originally posted by posthumous:
I would recommend living near family or friends who can babysit and provide other kinds of support. It makes a HUGE difference. |
congratulations indeed! i also agree with don - and can say that as one who is raising a child with no family support at all. it's very, very difficult - and i'm nearly 20 years older than your girlfriend.
good luck with it all, it's a wild ride!
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