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03/31/2006 12:15:34 AM · #1 |
| Just a quick question for anyone. I am just curious if you would let your partner/spouse go to a strip club? |
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03/31/2006 12:16:55 AM · #2 |
Originally posted by loseme:
Just a quick question for anyone. I am just curious if you would let your partner/spouse go to a strip club? |
YES!
Edit to add: if my partner were with me, so I could have fun too.
Message edited by author 2007-11-27 17:41:05.
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03/31/2006 12:18:31 AM · #3 |
very touchy subject. very personal... involving morals and devotion
if it doesn't feel right or sit well, let it be known |
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03/31/2006 12:19:50 AM · #4 |
yup (between me and my partner)
It can be entertaining to go with the partner/spouse as well, IF you are both comfortable with it.
My opinion is if you are in a trusting relationship, let them go. If you have your doubts, say no, but say why as well.
This is just my personal, humble opinion. I'm sure others will have many other different ones
edit: clarification
Message edited by author 2006-03-31 00:20:53. |
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03/31/2006 12:22:09 AM · #5 |
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03/31/2006 12:22:49 AM · #6 |
Originally posted by pidge:
yup (between me and my partner)
It can be entertaining to go with the partner/spouse as well, IF you are both comfortable with it.
My opinion is if you are in a trusting relationship, let them go. If you have your doubts, say no, but say why as well.
This is just my personal, humble opinion. I'm sure others will have many other different ones
edit: clarification |
I get the feeling she isn't comfortable with it though... otherwise why ask?
It isn't for anyone else to say though. It's a big issue that you need to assess yourself. |
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03/31/2006 12:23:15 AM · #7 |
Thanks I was just curious because I personally don't have a problem with it, but a bunch of the wives at my husbands work think I am a corrupter because I let him. My best friend is also in agreement with the other wives so I thought I would just check and see what others thought.
I know its a personal subjects and thanks for replying. |
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03/31/2006 12:23:46 AM · #8 |
Originally posted by fotomann_forever:
YES! |
Will you marry me?? The bridesmades could have these cute peanutbutter colored gowns... |
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03/31/2006 12:23:52 AM · #9 |
Sure, I have no problem with it. I've encouraged him to go once or twice, when his buddies were going.
I figure he can see more online than he can at a club, for one. And two, if I couldn't trust him, I couldn't be with him. :) |
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03/31/2006 12:25:14 AM · #10 |
Originally posted by loseme:
Thanks I was just curious because I personally don't have a problem with it, but a bunch of the wives at my husbands work think I am a corrupter because I let him. My best friend is also in agreement with the other wives so I thought I would just check and see what others thought.
I know its a personal subjects and thanks for replying. |
Sounds like you have trust in your husband and feel comfortable with your relationship, then. The other wives aren't married to your husband, so what do they know, right?
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03/31/2006 12:25:53 AM · #11 |
Originally posted by Little King:
Originally posted by pidge:
yup (between me and my partner)
It can be entertaining to go with the partner/spouse as well, IF you are both comfortable with it.
My opinion is if you are in a trusting relationship, let them go. If you have your doubts, say no, but say why as well.
This is just my personal, humble opinion. I'm sure others will have many other different ones
edit: clarification |
I get the feeling she isn't comfortable with it though... otherwise why ask? |
She did ask, would YOU let your partner go, and so I answered.
Originally posted by Little King:
It isn't for anyone else to say though. It's a big issue that you need to assess yourself. |
Uhm, did I not say that 1) this is my opinion was and 2) that this is just my PERSONAL opinion, which I do beleive was asked for?
Message edited by author 2006-03-31 00:26:32. |
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03/31/2006 12:27:21 AM · #12 |
Originally posted by pidge:
Originally posted by Little King:
Originally posted by pidge:
yup (between me and my partner)
It can be entertaining to go with the partner/spouse as well, IF you are both comfortable with it.
My opinion is if you are in a trusting relationship, let them go. If you have your doubts, say no, but say why as well.
This is just my personal, humble opinion. I'm sure others will have many other different ones
edit: clarification |
I get the feeling she isn't comfortable with it though... otherwise why ask? |
She did ask, would YOU let your partner go, and so I answered.
Originally posted by Little King:
It isn't for anyone else to say though. It's a big issue that you need to assess yourself. |
Uhm, did I not say that 1) this is my opinion was and 2) that this is just my PERSONAL opinion, which I do beleive was asked for? |
whoaaaaaaa there.... wasn't attacking you!
/participation in thread |
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03/31/2006 12:31:03 AM · #13 |
Originally posted by Little King:
whoaaaaaaa there.... wasn't attacking you!
/participation in thread |
*Sorry*
Loooong day that started with a chemistry lab exam and finished with shooting a performace.
Maybe it's a sign I should go to bed |
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03/31/2006 12:34:46 AM · #14 |
My hubby and I have gone out to strip clubs a handful of times. Personally, I dig it. I found that once over the initial awkwardness that I felt, seeing boobs really didn't disturb me. I mean, heck...I've got two I can look at whenever I want! Plus, the guys usually feel bad "dragging" me to a strip joint, so they buy me beer all night :-) And chicks don't have to pay cover where I'm at, so it's a free night of fun.
But, yeah, the bottom line is whether or not YOU'RE comfortable with it. I've found it doesn't bother me. If he went three times a week, I'd be a little ticked at the amount of money that he was spending!! But it's a rare occassion sort of thing.
And, the plus side to it is, hubbys are extra loving when you bring them home after a night out like that ;-) |
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03/31/2006 12:49:10 AM · #15 |
The word "Let" is what struck me the most.
Whilst I may not have been particularly thrilled with some of the decisions that my partner may have made in the past... I truly don't believe "Letting" her do something was ever part of the equation.
Normally I would have voiced any concerns I may have had, and left the decision with her. Trust and respect are the mainstay of any serious relationship, and they must co-exist if the rapport is to flourish.
Just a thought.
Ray |
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03/31/2006 12:59:31 AM · #16 |
Originally posted by RayEthier:
The word "Let" is what struck me the most.
Whilst I may not have been particularly thrilled with some of the decisions that my partner may have made in the past... I truly don't believe "Letting" her do something was ever part of the equation.
Normally I would have voiced any concerns I may have had, and left the decision with her. Trust and respect are the mainstay of any serious relationship, and they must co-exist if the rapport is to flourish.
Just a thought.
Ray |
Wonderfully put Ray !
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03/31/2006 01:31:21 AM · #17 |
My honey is free to do as he pleases. I have actually encouraged him to go to the strip clubs. Hell, I don't care. I know if he tries to get too frisky, I'll know about it, because the bouncers will have kicked the snot out of him and that will be that. :D
In all seriousness, it really doesn't bother me in the slightest. I trust him and that's all that matters to me. |
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03/31/2006 02:26:52 AM · #18 |
Originally posted by loseme:
Just a quick question for anyone. I am just curious if you would let your partner/spouse go to a strip club? |
your question sounds like you own your spouse..
my spouse and everyone elses spouses should NOT have to ask if they can go to a strip club, they are free to do whatever they want for fun..
I used to work at a stripclub, there is no way for any customer to do anything with the strippers the club don't allow, everything is watched by cameras, and the strippers have a keyword the bouncers listen for, a very common word usually, and by saying it the bouncers come in to the booth and will throw the customer out ;)
prostitution is not a common problem at stripclubs, they are usually just places with dancers that take there clothes off.. you can look but not touch :)
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03/31/2006 03:06:26 AM · #19 |
I'll throw in my 1 cent (I only half care about this topic, otherwise I'd put in the standard amount)...
I have always failed to see the attraction of strip clubs. I went into the Navy at 17 and believe me, I got dragged to many a strip club around the world and I seriously never found anything good about it. What is the point? Do you get all worked up and then go home to your wife and close your eyes and pretend she is "Candy" the pole dancer? For the women that are ok with it, is that what you get out of it that makes you approve?
Just to stir things up a little more, would any of you guys whose wives "let you" (or encourage you or have a don't ask, don't tell policy) go to strip clubs be ok with your wife wanting to work at the strip club? How about your daughter?
Not being judgemental or anything - I really am just curious. |
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03/31/2006 03:42:17 AM · #20 |
Interesting topic from both the idea of "letting" your spouse go and whether or not you are happy with it. Personally, I wouldn't like it to be a regular event but that's my problem not his. I certainly wouldn't tell him he couldn't - not my role and as long as he told me he was going and didn't do it secretly then I would not have any concern. Are men happy with their partners going to male strip shows?
BTW funniest text I have ever had was from my husband while he was away on my son's stag weekend.
It read:" I am in a lap dancing club. The boys say they are educating me!"
P
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03/31/2006 05:59:08 AM · #21 |
I'm with Art on this one. Never could see the point, or have the desire to frequent these places. What is it about the armed forces that you get dragged to these places?
I've been once or twice when I was 18 or 19. Not anymore, would not want my wife/girlfriend to go. |
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03/31/2006 06:34:41 AM · #22 |
Thinking outloud:
If you are engaged or married I don't see the point. What is it you want to see when you go to a strip club? Is it lust or just beauty.
It is like when you are on a diet and constantly look at all the chocolates.
I think that there is nothing good that can come out of a visit to a strip club. It is not a matter of trust, it is a matter of staying a way from temptations.
Don't say in your prayers "Lead us not into temptations" and go to a place like that where you get all worked up!
Going there with your love one is maybe ok, but not alone.
How does it feel like when your spouse is watching another and maybe longing for another? What does it make you? The second best of course!
Have a nice day :-)
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03/31/2006 07:59:52 AM · #23 |
LOL I have been to one strip club without my husband. Some friends of ours were transfering and wanted a last night out. My husband wasn't feeling too good so he stayed home with the kids. I volunteered to be the DD and we all went to a club for some dancing. Afterwords, everyone except me had had more than a couple drinks. My friend got the bright idea that she wanted to go to a strip club (she had never been.) Sooooooo.....I ended up driving everyone to the strip club. I was sober and at a strip club.
My husband thought it was hilarious. As for me, I am a bit weird about it. I don't mind him going with some friends, but I feel akward about him spending our money on strippers. I am very comfortable with him going at watching...but not much for him stuffing dollars down their pants. (or lack thereof) I also don't mind him looking up XXX stuff on the internet. I'm just not offended by it.
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03/31/2006 08:04:50 AM · #24 |
Originally posted by RayEthier:
The word "Let" is what struck me the most.
Whilst I may not have been particularly thrilled with some of the decisions that my partner may have made in the past... I truly don't believe "Letting" her do something was ever part of the equation.
Normally I would have voiced any concerns I may have had, and left the decision with her. Trust and respect are the mainstay of any serious relationship, and they must co-exist if the rapport is to flourish.
Just a thought.
Ray |
A wonderful capture of what the essence of a relationship is supposed to be like! Well put! |
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03/31/2006 08:08:38 AM · #25 |
Originally posted by Gunnsi:
How does it feel like when your spouse is watching another and maybe longing for another? What does it make you? The second best of course!
Have a nice day :-) |
My 2 cents on that. My husband and I are faithful and commited to each other. I think it is 100% natural to be attracted to others. Now, a woman has to be lying if she doesn't think James Denton from Desperate Housewives is a hottie ;o) There are lots of people out there that would be perfectly do-able if I was not married. Looking is one thing, but getting involved with someone else is a whole 'nother ball game. I, personally, would rather my spouse straight up tell me he thinks someone is hot than to deny it to my face. Just because your spouse is attracted to another person, does not mean they want to have an affair.
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