Disconcerting Comments - Am I Overreacting?

Canon EF 17-40mm f/4L USM

03/09/2006 02:21:20 AM · #1

Ok - I've received a disconcerting comment during a challenge and would like to gauge opinions. Its actually a portrait using my sister and it was done by GIS_boy (my photography partner & husband). I am quite concerned about the nature of this comment and would like to know whether I am just being paranoid, whether this sort of conduct is common and what are my options? I will not allude to which comment it is, but I will just post the photo here for people to make up their own minds.

Rikki

Canon EOS-20D

03/09/2006 02:26:15 AM · #2

I think you're just being paranoid :) I see which one you're referring to and it's just "expected" I suppose if a nude entry was in the mix. Don't worry about it ;) It's a harmless comment IMHO ;)

That is one stunning image BTW ;)

ClubJuggle

Canon EOS-400D Rebel XTi

Canon EF 28-135mm F/3.5-5.6 IS USM

03/09/2006 02:28:46 AM · #3

If you're referring to cushla's comment, what I find even more interesting is that he has only commented on 4 photos (including current challenges -- two are yours, and two are your husband's. That's either one hell of a coincidence, or he knows which entries are yours.

Is this someone you know?

~Terry

Message edited by author 2006-03-09 02:30:01.

03/09/2006 02:31:46 AM · #4

Originally posted by ClubJuggle:

Hey Terry - I was wondering that but I don't think that I know anyone that is aware of this site. But I will most definitely be quizzing Matthew when he gets home from work this afternoon!!!!!! Not anyone I know, anyway....... Still, regardless, I still feel a bit creepy about it. Maybe if it is someone I know, then I won't be finding it too amusing.

crayon

Panasonic Lumix DMC-FH1

03/09/2006 02:32:58 AM · #5

if i posted a nude, and i get that sort of comments, i find it more of a compliment than an insult. Maybe its just me.

03/09/2006 02:40:51 AM · #6

Originally posted by crayon:

if i posted a nude, and i get that sort of comments, i find it more of a compliment than an insult. Maybe its just me.

You guys are missing the point....I cannot agree more in regards to comments about nudes. But I do find this one just going a bit beyond the norm.

PhilipDyer

Canon EF 100mm f/2.8 USM Macro

03/09/2006 02:50:09 AM · #7

Unless that phrase (I believe the one you're talking about is, "Hot body must be a yummy mummy") has some specific colloquial meaning in Australia, I can't see anything at all disturbing about it. It just seems like a slightly odd compliment. Curious why you marked it as helpful if you're disturbed by it.

Actually, I think the most interesting thing about this photo is that your husband took a nude photo of your sister. You are raising the bar for understanding wives everywhere. :-)

TechnoShroom

Canon EOS-30D

03/09/2006 03:21:07 AM · #8

Originally posted by PhilipDyer:

Actually, I think the most interesting thing about this photo is that your husband took a nude photo of your sister.

Better than driving down the street and asking a random girl standing on the corner. Still better yet than driving to the local high school and doing the same. :)

03/09/2006 04:26:38 AM · #9

Originally posted by PhilipDyer:

Ok, ok......so the photo is not my sister, it is in fact, me. Not living in the weird family! So back to the point - have a look at the guy's site, who puts a dog as their profile image. He must be one unattractive individual if a dog is a more appealing profile image.

tapeworm_jimmy

Canon EF 85mm f/1.8 USM

03/09/2006 04:32:11 AM · #10

lets not start insulting people. maybe he was just joking around? I dunno, i find the comment somewhat inappropriate too, but maybe he really meant no harm?

Nikon AF-S DX NIKKOR 18-200mm f/3.5-5.6G ED VR II

03/09/2006 04:35:27 AM · #11

Originally posted by tapeworm_jimmy:

lets not start insulting people. maybe he was just joking around? I dunno, i find the comment somewhat inappropriate too, but maybe he really meant no harm?

You're right, tw_jimmy. I was trying to find out more about this particular individual and there is a dog there instead of his face.......no offence intended at all. Just an observation :)

EDIT: BTW, I appreciate the support, though, and that you too find this inappropriate. I thought it might have been just me!!!!!!!

Message edited by author 2006-03-09 04:38:06.

Refwhett

Nikon D300

03/09/2006 04:37:49 AM · #12

I believe you are over reacting and it was probably just ment as a harmless comment. I am at least pretty sure that he didn't put the comment out to insult you and see no reason for you to hint at an insult at him. I don't have a picture of myself in my profile either. Doesn't mean anything about how I look. If you find that comment offensive why dont you just PM the person and confront him with it. I am sure you will get a very reasnable answer to your worries.

tapeworm_jimmy

Samsung Galaxy S21, S21+, S21 Ultra

Canon EF 85mm f/1.8 USM

03/09/2006 04:38:21 AM · #13

i figured, and i really see why it upsets you, cause it is a rather odd comment. didnt mean for that to sound critical either, but i just imagined some guy waking up in the morning, and seeying this post. Then realizing that its about him :P

Bear_Music

Sony 24-70mm F4 Vario-Tessar T* FE OSS

03/09/2006 04:45:13 AM · #14

Unless I'm missing the point here, what bothers Nicole is that this person, unknown, living in the same country as her, is participating on this site solely to the extent of commenting on pictures of her. She's feeling stalked, I think. In that context, the comment is indeed a little creepy IMO.

R.

Message edited by author 2006-03-09 04:46:34.

Tallbloke

Canon EOS-350D Rebel XT

Canon EF 28-135mm F/3.5-5.6 IS USM

03/09/2006 05:00:17 AM · #15

Originally posted by manic35:

have a look at the guy's site, who puts a dog as their profile image. He must be one unattractive individual if a dog is a more appealing profile image.

Hey, I've got a swan with a polar bear's head as my profile image and I'm gorgeous. (and modest)

;-)

Steve

ShutterPug

Canon EOS-6D

03/09/2006 05:21:13 AM · #16

Originally posted by manic35:

have a look at the guy's site, who puts a dog as their profile image. He must be one unattractive individual if a dog is a more appealing profile image.

I had my pug's butt as my pic for awhile - was funny! It's no longer there, but I dont think I am butt ugly.

Penny Lane

Canon EOS-5D

03/09/2006 05:48:25 AM · #17

Have you PMed him?

03/09/2006 05:50:43 AM · #18

Originally posted by Bear_Music:

Thanks, Bear. Appreciate your comments. I wouldn't use the word stalked but until today I had only ever had positive experiences with DP and then for the first time I felt this could be a little bit weird.

Message edited by author 2006-03-09 06:04:48.

03/09/2006 05:55:11 AM · #19

Originally posted by Penny Lane:

Have you PMed him?

Well, I discussed this with my husband and I'm concerned about it. Thought I'd start here, gauge opinion first, see whether I was overreacting and then decide where to go from here.

I guess I'm concerned that PM may encourage further inappropriate (IMO)behaviour.

Penny Lane

Canon EOS-5D

03/09/2006 05:59:54 AM · #20

I just checked in on his profile and it says he has made 3 comments, when I go to look at them there is only two, one to you and one to your hubby. He also only registered that day so maybe it's just a coincidence. Both were made during voting so unless he recognises you from the photo he wouldn't know it was yours/you. I feel for you though, I wouldn't like this at all. It does seem kind of creepy ( or maybe a friends idea of a joke?). Don't be too specific about where you live.

yanko

Carl Zeiss 50mm ZE f/1.4 Planar T for Canon

03/09/2006 06:15:29 AM · #21

You're definitely not overreacting. I look at the two photos he commented on during the challenges and I can't tell that's you in either of them. I'd definitely see about PM him to just to see what he says.

Message edited by author 2006-03-09 06:16:51.

yanko