Originally posted by jomari:
I really feel that if someone does not want children - really does not want them - then it is a win win situation. Those non existent children are better off than children who grow up with indifferent or hostile parents.
Exactly. I was not and still am not cut out for the death-defying role of motherhood, and never will be. That doesn't mean I dislike children. It just means that I know, deep in my bones, that I would be a poor mother and am self-aware enough to ensure that I don't become one.
For example: one of my cats, the goofy-looking one, was destined to be a mommy cat. Well, she had her first litter of two kittens at the ripe old age of 18 months...and after one month, just when they had started on solid food but still weren't fully weaned, she decided she had had ENOUGH of motherhood and took to hiding from them, atop the fridge.
Needless to say, she was pulled from the cattery's breeding pool and sent up for adoption, I found her, and now I am probably like one very large exasperating kitten to her...but she's not hiding atop the fridge from me.
I have since joked that if I were to have kids I'm sure it wouldn't be long before I was hiding atop the fridge from them too!
Message edited by author 2016-05-18 19:08:27.