I need a hug... - DPChallenge Forums

Samsung Galaxy S21, S21+, S21 Ultra

08/02/2006 02:34:18 AM · #1

I've never posted such a message... But I don't know where to turn to...

I feel so very alone in this whole wide world. I am going through a very painful divorce. I have no family here in Canada (other than my child) and not too many friends that would understand.

I am so tired of crying myself to sleep every night, and waking up feeling like I don't matter to anyone anymore. I am not among those who would easily felt sorry fo myself, but it hurts so much it's hard to breathe.

I am so tired of coming home after work to an empty appartment. No one to talk to. No one who would say "honey, how was your day"... no one who would hug me and tell me that "it's going to be all OK"...

I am so very lost...

I have not been able to take a decent shot for months. I feel like the biggest looser.

Is there anyone out there who knows how I feel? Have any of you experienced such a loneliness and pain?

I appologize to those who are not interested in my tears. I am not looking for someone to feel sorry for me, I just need a hug.

Bear_Music

Sony 24-70mm F4 Vario-Tessar T* FE OSS

08/02/2006 02:38:10 AM · #2

You can have a hug from me. I know the pain of isolation very well. I can say, from my experience, that this, too, will pass; but that's no comfort now. So here's a bear hug for you :-)

Robt.

08/02/2006 02:41:51 AM · #3

*hug* from me too. ...and how was your day? :D

Carl Zeiss 50mm ZE f/1.4 Planar T for Canon

08/02/2006 02:43:21 AM · #4

It's going to be ok, times like that are tough indeed :(

{{{{Nella}}}}

yanko

Canon EOS-5D Mark II

08/02/2006 02:44:30 AM · #5

*HUGS* Hang in there Nella!

ShutterPug

Canon EOS-6D

Canon 12x IS USM (S3 IS built-in Lens) -- 36-432mm (35mm EQ)

08/02/2006 02:45:39 AM · #6

Originally posted by timmi:

Having just gone through ALL of this a few months ago, I know exactly how you feel. Ther are still some days that I feel like this too - but they do get less frequent. I can't say my photos are gettign any better, but being single is. Hang in there - you'll be okay. BIG HUG to you!

feel free to PM if you need someone to talk with and I'll share my cell phone number with you.

GeneralE

Canon PowerShot S3 IS

08/02/2006 02:49:11 AM · #7

Yup, been there, more than once even. It will feel better in time, especially if you can remind yourself that it's the other person who has the real "problem." Hugs are a good thing, and quite inexpensive -- help yourself to as many as you need : )

HBunch

HP PhotoSmart 315

08/02/2006 02:50:11 AM · #8

Dang, I think I need a hug too...I just had some girl go off on me in the forums and I don't even know who she is. Go figure.

Yeah, so I'm facing divorce myself, and I'd hug ya, but I just got out of work (10 hours and it's almost 3am) and we had a G10 today, which means the temp was over 120 in the factory I build automobile radiators in alll day...sooo...needless to say, my 12 hour deodorant failed after about 6 hours and I'm pretty funky.
But *hug* anyway since I needed one too.

08/02/2006 02:51:33 AM · #9

((((Heather)))) ... but from a healthy distance :)

ShutterPug

Canon EOS-6D

Nikon AF Nikkor 50mm f/1.4D

08/02/2006 02:52:34 AM · #10

Originally posted by HBunch:

hugs for you too - even if you're a bit smelly. :P

taterbug

Nikon D300

08/02/2006 02:56:01 AM · #11

here's a {{hug}}
This may not be a big consolation to you now, but I went through a very rough and bitter divorce about 12 yrs ago. But now, I'm rapidly approaching 8 very happy years with my wonderful wife, Sheila, and our totally awesome blessing, our daughter, Tucker Rose. I know it must be very rough for you right now, and yes, you'll have some more rough times ahead, but I believe things happen for a reason. Many, many things are blessings in disguise in our lives. It may not feel like it, but you can deal with it, and things will get better. Don't be afraid to pop in here and vent though, there are some caring, good listeners here. Take care :-)

Bear_Music

Samsung Galaxy S21, S21+, S21 Ultra

Sony 24-70mm F4 Vario-Tessar T* FE OSS

08/02/2006 02:56:28 AM · #12

Bear Hug for Heather-the Radiator-Gal. The smell doesn't bother me, since I have more than a hint of eau de salmon lingering about me at this time of year :-)

R.

amber

Canon EOS-300D Rebel

Canon EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6

08/02/2006 02:57:24 AM · #13

Is there something in the air at the moment???

I haven't been through it myself, but I know a bit about loneliness being out here away from friends and family;) Please feel free to PM if you need to vent or talk;) Can we have a group hug?

taterbug

Nikon D300

Nikon AF Nikkor 50mm f/1.4D

08/02/2006 02:58:28 AM · #14

here's a {{hug}} for heather too (with a clothespin on my nose) ;-P

08/02/2006 03:01:22 AM · #15

Originally posted by amber:

Can we have a group hug?

Ok, but last time someone touched me inappropriately. Let's not have a repeat of that. ;-)

edit to add: it was probably crayon. :P

Message edited by author 2006-08-02 03:01:58.

08/02/2006 03:01:56 AM · #16

08/02/2006 03:02:29 AM · #17

Originally posted by Art Roflmao:

Originally posted by amber:
Can we have a group hug?

Ok, but last time someone touched me inappropriately. Let's not have a repeat of that. ;-)

Sorry, I thought you were someone else :(

08/02/2006 03:03:24 AM · #18

Originally posted by alfresco:

Originally posted by Art Roflmao:

Originally posted by amber:
Can we have a group hug?

Ok, but last time someone touched me inappropriately. Let's not have a repeat of that. ;-)

Sorry, I thought you were someone else :(

Yeah, I am often mistaken for Judi or Cindi.

08/02/2006 03:07:21 AM · #19

Originally posted by Art Roflmao:

Yeah, I am often mistaken for Judi or Cindi.

I think it's because you all use canon.

timmi

Canon EOS-5D Mark II

Olympus 40-150mm f/3.5-4.5 Zuiko Digital

08/02/2006 03:08:16 AM · #20

Thank you so much for all the hugs. These are the first hugs I had in soooo long (well other than my son). With me, it comes and goes. One moment I feel like I can deal with it, and the next I fall into million little pieces.

I have done some hard things in my life... Like switching countries when I was 20. It was very difficult to get used to a different way of life. But I did it all by myself. At that time, I thought, there is nothing in my life that will ever be as difficult as this.

And then you loose the one person you love and care for the most and you are back to square one. Starting all over after 14 years. I am so scared.

I thought I could ease my pain through photography, but I can't. I feel like hiding most of the time. The only thing I feel like photographing are dead things... Weird, ha?

joynim

Olympus E-500 EVOLT

08/02/2006 03:08:30 AM · #21

Hi Nella I havent been through the same experience as you so I can only imagine what you are going through.
I know it must have been hard to post your thoughts like that but I bet your'e gald you did- look at how many supportive replies you got!
Interestingly enough more men than woman beeing supportive ( I think there must be a bunch of snags in here! )
I really hope things improve for you and feel to PM if you need to :-)

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Message edited by author 2006-08-02 03:09:26.

crayon

Panasonic Lumix DMC-FH1

08/02/2006 03:09:26 AM · #22

Originally posted by Art Roflmao:

Ok, but last time someone touched me inappropriately. Let's not have a repeat of that. ;-)

edit to add: it was probably crayon. :P

what the.... ??? you sure it wasn't Leroy? He looked busy during the group hug

08/02/2006 03:10:49 AM · #23

Originally posted by timmi:

The only thing I feel like photographing are dead things... Weird, ha?

Um, well, Slippy and I don't think so. ;-)

crayon

Panasonic Lumix DMC-FH1

08/02/2006 03:11:35 AM · #24

Originally posted by timmi:

I thought I could ease my pain through photography, but I can't.

You can't - unless you can find something that could totally distract you. A person's place is hardest to replace.

ShutterPug

Canon EOS-6D